One of the great things about crossdressing is the opportunity it affords us to be expressive and creative. I’ve said to many of my members that if you stick a pig in lingerie it’s still a pig. Indeed, I’ve said to my good friend Sylvester that Amanda’s best chance to get a date is if someone mistakes her for a seeing eye pig in a bar.
Many of us simply are not going to pull off the lingerie look, just as many women won’t. That doesn’t stop you looking great in a dress. It’s a matter of aiming at a goal that are attainable – which is far more satisfying than continually striving for the unachievable.
While the catwalks of Milan will be the inspiration for some, the art or music videos of a certain period will be the inspiration for others. It’s all a matter of taste.
However, today I’d like you to think about all the different places you can draw on for inspiration for crossdressing ideas. I have a few of my own that I’ll be expanding on in the coming days, but I thought this one quite fun.
Above is a picture by the British Artist, Beryl Cook. Her paintings are quite iconic and show a humor that reflects her nature.
Where do you draw your ideas from? Got any inspirational ideas you’d like to share? Email me at email@example.com and I’ll share some of the best ones.
Visiting my kitchen the other day was the beautiful Nikki Buxton. I will let her images speak for themselves.
I had just come in from running around in the local park, where Sylvester and his German Shepherd had been playing with his balls. I do enjoy the exercise, but when Nikki wandered in I was already quite out of breath.
The arrival of Nikki leaves everyone breathless. She is an absolute joy.
Nikki tells me she started dressing when she was about 9. Her mother had a great sense of style, and so when Nikki found some of her nylons, and a little black dress she tried them on. The experience was wonderful and her path was set.
Like many of us, Nikki’s family didn’t know anything about her delight in dressing, and she now enjoys a relationship with a kind and understanding girlfriend who helps her with her dressing. Her girlfriend is accepting of her gender choices, and is supportive.
Nikki is very non-judgemental. She accepts others as they are and knows that while others may not be completely understanding, they have their own journey too. Her attitude is quite delightful and easy going.
I asked Nikki how she came to terms with herself crossdressing?
She replied, “I never had a hard time accepting who I am, I just thought ‘if I enjoy it so much why give myself a hard time about it – I should just get on with it.”
“As long as I’m good with it, I don’t really need anyone else to accept it. That’s why I don’t really want to involve others as it’s my thing.”
As we enjoyed a Kenyan free trade coffee, I asked her what advice she might have for others exploring their desire to dress.
“Just go for it,” she replied. “Book a hotel room if you’re worried about being caught and just enjoy it to the full, it will feel like a weight has been lifted.”
What wise words! I’m hoping Nikki joins me again soon, as I just know Sebastian would like to get her in a yoga class – just the three of us!
I asked her what she might do, should she find herself trapped in an elevator
with Donald Trump, as one naturally does in an interview like this.
Nikki turned a shade of green and commented that that wasn’t going to happen. ‘Mr. Trump’s not welcome over here.”
Nikki is a delight. She has a wishlist on Amazon. If you’d like to show your appreciation for her hard work dressing, her delightful attitude and for presenting herself so wonderfully, visit her wishlist and send her something nice. You can do so here.
Feel free to leave a comment for Nikki below.
We are all put in boxes by society, family and the wider world. Gender, once considered a fact – is now understood to be more fluid and mysterious. In this heartfelt talk Geena Rocero tells her story.
I’m delighted to say that I’ve released Part 18 of Clothes Maketh The Man. You will need to be logged in to read it, but for those of you enjoying the ongoing story of the hapless Andrea, you can find it here. A taster is below.
Now, let me remind you precisely where we are. I found myself in my walk in closet, crouching down, in five inch heels. You can’t imagine how that hurts after just a few moments. Just feet from where I was, on the other side of the closet door, was Mandy (my girlfriend), who had arrived at my place and let herself in unexpectedly.
Through the louvres of the closet door I watched and my blood ran cold as I realised she was dialling my number. There by my feet were the trousers with my cell phone in the pocket.
In that moment time seemed to stand still, hanging in the air, like an unplayed note in a musical score. I held my breath
Mandy had returned from her overseas trip and I’d forgotten the date. It had crept up so suddenly and now she was back, standing in my bedroom, looking at a pale pink tee shirt and leggings that were strewn about my bedroom…
I thought I’d touch on something many people ask about. So many of us confine our dressing to lingerie and club wear, and yet we yearn to embrace the feminine within us. This is a little like the person learning to drive practicing in a Formula 1 racing car.
There are many opportunities to enjoy a feminine presentation by adopting a somewhat androgynous look in our day to day life, or even in the workplace. So, today we’re looking at how we can bring aspects of dressing into the work place in subtle ways.
Now, if you wear a uniform at work, this may be a bit of a stretch. The same may be true if you’re working in an iron foundry. However, I’d love to see you get creative and even send in a photo or two of how you bring this one off. Remember, it’s as much about how you feel, as how you look.
Let me give you an example. If you work in an environment in which jeans is ok, try wearing a more feminine cut of jeans. Use a loose sweater with them, and you can still find yourself acceptably dressed for many workplaces. If you were to loop a nice slim belt around your waistline, you’d have moved firmly into the realm of crossdressing – which is likely to be too much for your workplace. So, it’s a matter of finding the threshold and moving a little closer to it, to satisfy that part of you which desires to feel feminine.
If you can find an outfit that works for you, in the knowledge that if you added a wig and heels you’d look feminine, then you know you’re moving in the right direction. Personally, I love to wear a kilt now and then. This is a great way to push the boundaries even further. I understand that this is not going to work for everyone, however, it’s a fun way to push that threshold.
If you are using a little eye make up and a little blush now and then, this will take you even closer to that threshold. Be careful, you may not want to ‘out yourself’ by accident.
Be sure to send me a pic or two if you find you’re able to pull it off. Let me know if I can use them on the website.
I’d like to introduce one of our favorite new friends from Germany, Hannah. Now, you may have seen her in various social media channels, but here she is dressed wonderfully, and presenting a number of selfies.
When Hannah’s selfies came through on email it was all I could do to pry them off young Max. That boy is becoming quite obsessed! I sometimes think he spends too much time alone with his computer. I think it may be affecting his health, and as I said to Julie – “he always seems so breathless after checking out the images.”
Hannah has been dressing since she was very young, and she now works in IT and is feeling like an increasingly confident young lady. Age 22, she’s developed a lovely confident look and has a fresh approach to life.
We’d love to hear more from Hannah, and will be sure to keep you updated.
— Fiona Dobson (@FionaDobson_CD) January 4, 2018
In this, the first of five periscopes, Oakley is going to talk about how you lay the groundwork for talking to your partner about crossdressing. Many people are afraid of how their partner will respond. We’re going to show you how to set the scene so that they become receptive to the idea.
Feel free to add questions for Oakley in the comments below. Next one is next week.