I think it fair to say that most crossdressers enjoy wearing clothes with style and panache. One great example of someone who does not know how to do this came to the fore recently.
I’ve sent staff home from the office before for ‘looking like you are wearing a garbage bag to work’. When Melania Trump recently showed up with a heartless message on her jacket she proved once more that it really doesn’t matter how much money you have, you can’t buy class. I need hardly add that the children abused by this heartless policy have no voice to counter this ignorance with.
Thanks for reminding us all exactly who you and your family are. As if we needed reminding!
You can add your voice to those who really do care by wearing the tee shirt below.
It’s a wonderful time to color up your wardrobe with some pink sneakers. Here’s a few cool options. These are great for on the beach, or at the fitness studio.
Sebastian, my personal trainer, had always liked me to wear my pink trainers when working out. He tells me that when they are just behind my ears the color offsets the glow of my cheek. He’s a very naughty trainer.
Pink was not always a feminine color, there being several military uniforms of the Napolionic era that included pink trim. Only at the end of the 1800’s did the color begin to take on a feminine undertone. You can learn a little more about the cultural history of ‘pink’ here.
For a crossdresser pink offers the opportunity to introduce an overtly feminine accessory that softens the most manly of presentations. Remember, when buying femme shoe sizes add at least two sizes to convert to a male size. If you have broad feet this may not be enough.
I was so pleased to see a delivery arrive this morning with some new and colorful socks. As I’m wearing shorter skirts now, I am loving the fact that I can mix and match with some exciting new colors and textures covering my legs.
Here are a few ideas that have got me excited recently. I’m sure that slipping these on when you dress, or even under your usual clothes is sure to add a spring to your step.
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|Picking a beautiful pair of suspender pantyhose is a great choice for instant sex appeal, but also a low maintainance approach to swift dressing. These stockings will make your legs look spectacular and help you feel sexy and attractive in seconds, even if they’ve not been shaved in a while.|
|Get colorful with these packs that offer variety and style. These are perfect to add a special sparkle to a new outfit, or revitalise an older one. Dare to be colorful and you’ll find you can reignite your look with ease.|
|Don’t be afraid to explore the outer limits of good taste! Yes, sometimes it pays to get a little whacky. If you’re the sort of person who knows that if they’re not the wierdest person in the room, then you’re obviously in the wrong room, then you will have to have these great socks. Whether you wear them under your suit in the Funeral home where you work, or you just can’t resist them with a short skirt, then you know you’re on the right track as you pull these beauties on!|
It’s time to put together something exciting for summer. Here’s a great place to start.
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|Lightweight, cheap and fun. Crocs make some funky wedges. Remember to add 2 sizes to get a women’s shoe to fit a male foot!|
|Mesh panties are fun and comfortable to exercise in. Just don’t wear them to the pool and go into the male changing rooms.|
|Find the perfect summer dress here.|
|You just can’t beat corset tops for a fresh summer look.|
Most crossdressers enjoy their activities in a somewhat private way. Unlike ‘drag queens’ they feel a sense of privacy adds to their enjoyment, and definitely don’t wish to step outside of their comfort zone unless there is a well established confidence already built.
While this isn’t the case for everyone, it’s certainly the case for many of my members. I was saying to Sebastian just this Wednesday, as he was helping me adjust my yoga position, I feel an intimate connection with every one of my members. I feel that I understand their struggle and their joy. And it’s a path that’s sadly not understood by many. Even as Sebastian helped me into an inversion, I said that the connection is one that is deep and very personal.
With that in mind, I thought I’d talk this week about wearing some clothes somewhat less associated with crossdressing. I think we all agree that lovely soft evening gowns are very beautiful. For the average woman, there’s a desire to wear them out and be seen. Ironically, because crossdressers tend not to want to go outside in such a public exposure (at least in the early part of their journey), this is an activity that is denied us by society.
|That however does not mean that you can’t enjoy these wonderful garments. Especially these days, the cost is not prohibitive. There’s nothing in the world wrong with being ‘overdressed’ in the privacy of your own home. Remember, it’s not so long ago that many people ‘dressed for dinner’.
With this in mind, this week I’m featuring these lovely gowns. You can buy these and wear them in the privacy of your own home, enjoy their delightful flow and movement, and perhaps wear them in public – when you are ready.
Enjoy them, and remember you can buy them at very reasonable rates online.
In the meantime, sometimes you have to learn to be invisible.
Many of my members buy their clothing online and love to use Amazon. I’ve got a few selections below based on what my members have been buying this week. Feel free to review any of the products you buy here. I always love to hear from my members. FD
|Some of my favorite sleepwear items are the simplest. Here’s a small selection of items my members have been buying recently, and enjoying.|
|You can’t beat the feel of silky material against the skin. What better way to ensure a wonderful night’s sleep!|
|Try some of these lovely silky pyjamas and see how wonderful you feel in the morning! All fresh and ready to go out and pretend to be almost normal, like all the people who’d love to be enjoying themselves as much as you and I.
I thought I’d touch on something many people ask about. So many of us confine our dressing to lingerie and club wear, and yet we yearn to embrace the feminine within us. This is a little like the person learning to drive practicing in a Formula 1 racing car.
There are many opportunities to enjoy a feminine presentation by adopting a somewhat androgynous look in our day to day life, or even in the workplace. So, today we’re looking at how we can bring aspects of dressing into the work place in subtle ways.
Now, if you wear a uniform at work, this may be a bit of a stretch. The same may be true if you’re working in an iron foundry. However, I’d love to see you get creative and even send in a photo or two of how you bring this one off. Remember, it’s as much about how you feel, as how you look.
Let me give you an example. If you work in an environment in which jeans is ok, try wearing a more feminine cut of jeans. Use a loose sweater with them, and you can still find yourself acceptably dressed for many workplaces. If you were to loop a nice slim belt around your waistline, you’d have moved firmly into the realm of crossdressing – which is likely to be too much for your workplace. So, it’s a matter of finding the threshold and moving a little closer to it, to satisfy that part of you which desires to feel feminine.
If you can find an outfit that works for you, in the knowledge that if you added a wig and heels you’d look feminine, then you know you’re moving in the right direction. Personally, I love to wear a kilt now and then. This is a great way to push the boundaries even further. I understand that this is not going to work for everyone, however, it’s a fun way to push that threshold.
If you are using a little eye make up and a little blush now and then, this will take you even closer to that threshold. Be careful, you may not want to ‘out yourself’ by accident.
Be sure to send me a pic or two if you find you’re able to pull it off. Let me know if I can use them on the website.
Q: How do you wear a kilt?
A: Like you mean it!
A man in a kilt is a man and a half… Except when he’s a chick. Anyway, I thought I’d introduce this idea to you for 2018. Many people feel a little shy about dressing for the first time in public. This is understandable. Putting on a kilt is a great way to ease yourself into it.
“After the first day of wearing a kilt in the office, people hardly noticed it and certainly didn’t comment on it. I now wear a kilt once a week, and if someone comments on it people are more inclined to think they’re a little odd, than the thought that I am!”- Rob
If you’re going to do this, you need to do it right. That means wearing suitable long black socks, a pair of black shoes (Vans do a great black canvas shoe that works well), and a plain sweater. One of my favorite ranges of kilts is provided by Sportkilt. They’ve done a great job popularizing the look. If you buy from them, be sure to let them know Fiona Dobson sent you.
All you need to do to change it up is throw on a pair of fishnets, and some eye shadow and you’re in full crossdress mode!
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|The Black Watch tartan is a proud military tartan, that is not confined to any particular ‘clan’. It is both conservative and stylish.|
|The Wallace Tartan is a bright and flamboyant look, suitable for the younger rebelious type. Worn with a black sweater or a white shirt it can still appear smart, while retaining the bright impact of it’s youthful nature.||;|
|The Utility Kilt is acceptable in many workplaces and is as masculine as you wish it to be. It’s a great look if you’ve never tried it and are not confident enough to step into a more fashionable style of kilt.|
Here’s the perfect pair of shoes to go with a kilt, from Vans:
It goes without saying that everybody out to have a maid, but when one of my friends recently mentioned the matter of a PVC maids costume, I felt compelled to put this on the site. Enjoy! FD
There’s a fresh edge to the weather here in Montreal, and I got up this morning and got dressed all toasty, and went out to visit my friends after plunging my hands in my nice furry muff. It’s so nice to just slide my hand right in there.
And of course, this time of year is wonderful for those of us who love to experiment with wool and knitwear. The feeling of wool against the skin is so sensual, of course. So soft and yielding. I’ve got a friend in Wales who was saying much the same thing recently. At least, I think that’s what he meant. Sometimes it’s so hard to tell.
So today I have three things for you to think about adding to your wardrobe.
The first is a high waisted ‘midi’ skirt. This one is a cotton blend, but you can see it’s lovely and warm and also simply a comfortable fit. Just right for a look of elegance but that’s also very practical.
The second, continuing the knitted theme is this great sweater dress. The wonderful thing about a sweater dress like this is the way it can emphasise your shape. Of course, it’s look wonderful with it’s full collar, but additionally it’s delightful with the right nylons and warm as toast.
And finally I have this delightful knitted long sleeve wrap dress, that’s both warm and comfortable and adds a quiet sense of conservatism, while maintaining a feminine look.
I am so excited to tell you about some lovely new bras specifically for crossdressers that are coming on my radar. Several of my members having been trying out some of the ones available on my site and coming back with great feedback.
Mildred from Colorado Springs writes “My breasts are now bigger than those of most of the women I find attractive. I so want to find a suitable bra, but get very worried about buying them locally. I’m very shy and I feel there’s very little customer support for someone like me!”
Mildred, as you know bras are all about support. And there’s no reason in the world why you shouldn’t have a nice silky or lacy bra to wear either beneath your clothes at home – or all day for that matter. Have a browse around. You can even find some very cool breast forms here. The more you explore the more you’ll be able to nip those fears in the bud!
I’m emailing you having just returned from the heart unit, where I am happy to relate that Bernard is in the process of recovery from his rather unfortunate incident with a carrot. This is much to the relief of Max, who for a moment thought he may have blood (or rather carrot juice) on his hands after shooting Bernard with the aid of Sebastian’s motorcycle. If this is all a bit confusing you may be able to catch up here.
I arrived home to find Sylvester sitting at my kitchen table looking more confused than a Trump supporter who had recently learned that he’d won a months free food at Hooters, only to discover that he had to complete a skill testing question asking him to calculate the area of a square measuring 2 inches by 2 inches, before being eligible to collect his prize. I asked Sylvester what could possibly be wrong.
“It’s this business with North Korea. My dad was out there years ago, and that didn’t go so well,” said Sylvester.
Now, in case you’ve been living under a rock – which might be the safest place to be under the circumstances – then you might be unaware that people are talking about the possibility of nuclear war. At times like this one is forced to ask the big questions. ‘What’s it all for?’, and ‘Isn’t there hope for humanity?’, and ‘What does one really wear for Armageddon?’.
As I looked down at my troubled friend, I was forced to conclude that one should always look on the bright side, and dress up for the occasion. Seeing Sylvester’s legs, also brought something else to mind, and consider that this is a man who looks like a gorilla and a fridge got together and created a baby.
I am of course talking about the need to deal with body hair when one crossdresses. The need to look one’s best supersedes all other considerations as the nuclear clock ticks toward midnight. Sylvester’s legs are very hairy, and if one is to meet one’s end looking fabulous either waxing it off, or at least disguising the body hair is a great place to start.
Not all of my members are able to shave their legs. For those who discretely dress without the knowledge of their partners, suddenly appearing without leg hair may be something of a give away. One member did successfully claim that their new swimming regime required them to remove as much body hair as possible, but this isn’t going to fly for some members.
In the quest to disguise body hair the fishnet pantyhose are your friends. Better still, try a fishnet body stocking. No one should be without one, in my opinion. If you’re unable to find one locally, you can follow this link and order one on my website.
So, the question remains, faced with the unpleasant eventuality of nuclear annihilation, what would your outfit be? Personally, I think nice summer dress and some heels, pretty pink bra and panties. Feel free to let me know.
Now don’t forget, you can now join My Little Black Book for just $2.95 a month by using this link – https://gumroad.com/l/mMgcZ. Be sure to let me know once you’ve paid and I’ll get you set up.
Whether you like to get into a dance class, or just like to do a little yoga at home, you can look wonderful at the bar or on the mat by slipping into something figure hugging and fun.
Now if you read my weekly emails you’ll realise the unfortunate story behind the leotards and the whole thing with Amanda – but if not, you may like to browse through these anyway. You can sign up for the free program here.
For those who want to wear their leotard in a slightly different way, it’s going to look great as a top, over jeans or just a light skirt. As a simple androgenous look there are many leotards that work perfectly, and as a feminine icon, it is of course, spectacular. FD.
It’s time to get into that mini skirt and show off your curves. The hypnosis file above will help you make up your mind to get out there and give it a try, all you need to do now is select a great skirt and off you go! Remember to check sizes, and most guys will be a XXL.
Here’s a few great options you can order online.
Don’t ever underestimate the power of a mini skirt. It will change the way you look, and change the way you feel. Be sure of one thing, though. If you’re going to wear a mini, you have to wear it like you mean it!
If you are getting my weekly emails – which you get when you sign up for the Free Program – you’ll already know the importance of having a great body stocking in your wardrobe. I was reminded, when looking at Sylvester’s legs the other day, that some of us bare a closer resemblance to the lower primates than others. Having a great body stocking is a good way to disguise body hair.
Here’s a selection of options that are fun, easy to wear and will make you feel fabulous.
I received a lovely email today from one of our Premium Members, Helena. She had just completed the second of the Premium tasks, and was kind enough to provide the following report back. I thought I’d post it as she writes so very well, and also as an indication of how some of these tasks can help my gurls develop. Helena writes:
I completed task #2!
I went to Walmart to buy 3 pair of panties and fishnet pantyhose.
When I arrived I started roaming near the lingerie section, I was very nervous so I had to make sure there weren’t many girls nearby, was trying to avoid any looks or something. But when I started browsing, hunting for the simple black ones, I realized you are totally right!
They are just minding their own business when shopping and didn’t even look at me, even the attendant woman was like, I just wanna get out of here, yawning even. So that relaxed me immediately, I just browsed everything in there, and picked 3 pairs, one simple and black, some lacy red ones, and a pinkish thong with black highlights.
I am a tall person so I went for XL and they fit nicely, maybe a bit snug, but I like how they look, then I continued over to the nylons and stockings section and had more trouble with sizing than anything else,
I stayed there some time wondering and the attendant came along and asked me if I needed help, as natural as I could I just told her I was having trouble with the length of the nylons and she suggested a pair of fishnet pantyhose, because even if I didn’t know my length they were flexible in that regard, more so than stockings which may be too short and unfixable, pantyhose would be more suitable, and fishnets do provide more stretch and resistance she said, so I just went with her suggestion and thanked her for it 😀
At home I tried them all on immediately and found them to be good choices. Thank you so much!
It was a good start, I feel much more confident now.