We are all put in boxes by society, family and the wider world. Gender, once considered a fact – is now understood to be more fluid and mysterious. In this heartfelt talk Geena Rocero tells her story.
I’m delighted to say that I’ve released Part 18 of Clothes Maketh The Man. You will need to be logged in to read it, but for those of you enjoying the ongoing story of the hapless Andrea, you can find it here. A taster is below.
Now, let me remind you precisely where we are. I found myself in my walk in closet, crouching down, in five inch heels. You can’t imagine how that hurts after just a few moments. Just feet from where I was, on the other side of the closet door, was Mandy (my girlfriend), who had arrived at my place and let herself in unexpectedly.
Through the louvres of the closet door I watched and my blood ran cold as I realised she was dialling my number. There by my feet were the trousers with my cell phone in the pocket.
In that moment time seemed to stand still, hanging in the air, like an unplayed note in a musical score. I held my breath
Mandy had returned from her overseas trip and I’d forgotten the date. It had crept up so suddenly and now she was back, standing in my bedroom, looking at a pale pink tee shirt and leggings that were strewn about my bedroom…
I thought I’d touch on something many people ask about. So many of us confine our dressing to lingerie and club wear, and yet we yearn to embrace the feminine within us. This is a little like the person learning to drive practicing in a Formula 1 racing car.
There are many opportunities to enjoy a feminine presentation by adopting a somewhat androgynous look in our day to day life, or even in the workplace. So, today we’re looking at how we can bring aspects of dressing into the work place in subtle ways.
Now, if you wear a uniform at work, this may be a bit of a stretch. The same may be true if you’re working in an iron foundry. However, I’d love to see you get creative and even send in a photo or two of how you bring this one off. Remember, it’s as much about how you feel, as how you look.
Let me give you an example. If you work in an environment in which jeans is ok, try wearing a more feminine cut of jeans. Use a loose sweater with them, and you can still find yourself acceptably dressed for many workplaces. If you were to loop a nice slim belt around your waistline, you’d have moved firmly into the realm of crossdressing – which is likely to be too much for your workplace. So, it’s a matter of finding the threshold and moving a little closer to it, to satisfy that part of you which desires to feel feminine.
If you can find an outfit that works for you, in the knowledge that if you added a wig and heels you’d look feminine, then you know you’re moving in the right direction. Personally, I love to wear a kilt now and then. This is a great way to push the boundaries even further. I understand that this is not going to work for everyone, however, it’s a fun way to push that threshold.
If you are using a little eye make up and a little blush now and then, this will take you even closer to that threshold. Be careful, you may not want to ‘out yourself’ by accident.
Be sure to send me a pic or two if you find you’re able to pull it off. Let me know if I can use them on the website.
I’d like to introduce one of our favorite new friends from Germany, Hannah. Now, you may have seen her in various social media channels, but here she is dressed wonderfully, and presenting a number of selfies.
When Hannah’s selfies came through on email it was all I could do to pry them off young Max. That boy is becoming quite obsessed! I sometimes think he spends too much time alone with his computer. I think it may be affecting his health, and as I said to Julie – “he always seems so breathless after checking out the images.”
Hannah has been dressing since she was very young, and she now works in IT and is feeling like an increasingly confident young lady. Age 22, she’s developed a lovely confident look and has a fresh approach to life.
We’d love to hear more from Hannah, and will be sure to keep you updated.
— Fiona Dobson (@FionaDobson_CD) January 4, 2018
In this, the first of five periscopes, Oakley is going to talk about how you lay the groundwork for talking to your partner about crossdressing. Many people are afraid of how their partner will respond. We’re going to show you how to set the scene so that they become receptive to the idea.
Feel free to add questions for Oakley in the comments below. Next one is next week.
Q: How do you wear a kilt?
A: Like you mean it!
A man in a kilt is a man and a half… Except when he’s a chick. Anyway, I thought I’d introduce this idea to you for 2018. Many people feel a little shy about dressing for the first time in public. This is understandable. Putting on a kilt is a great way to ease yourself into it.
“After the first day of wearing a kilt in the office, people hardly noticed it and certainly didn’t comment on it. I now wear a kilt once a week, and if someone comments on it people are more inclined to think they’re a little odd, than the thought that I am!”- Rob
If you’re going to do this, you need to do it right. That means wearing suitable long black socks, a pair of black shoes (Vans do a great black canvas shoe that works well), and a plain sweater. One of my favorite ranges of kilts is provided by Sportkilt. They’ve done a great job popularizing the look. If you buy from them, be sure to let them know Fiona Dobson sent you.
All you need to do to change it up is throw on a pair of fishnets, and some eye shadow and you’re in full crossdress mode!
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|The Black Watch tartan is a proud military tartan, that is not confined to any particular ‘clan’. It is both conservative and stylish.|
|The Wallace Tartan is a bright and flamboyant look, suitable for the younger rebelious type. Worn with a black sweater or a white shirt it can still appear smart, while retaining the bright impact of it’s youthful nature.||;|
|The Utility Kilt is acceptable in many workplaces and is as masculine as you wish it to be. It’s a great look if you’ve never tried it and are not confident enough to step into a more fashionable style of kilt.|
Here’s the perfect pair of shoes to go with a kilt, from Vans:
I said nothing, instead staring at my feet. She sat quietly on the bed, and motioned me to sit beside her. I did so, doubtful of her good intentions, but aware that this was surely better than the beating she could so easily have resorted to.
“Now, tell me the truth. Did you do it because it feels nice?”
I continued to look at my feet, but nodded silently. I couldn’t face her.
“Well, at least we have the truth, now.”
She put her arm around my shoulders. Her body was warm and soft, and she said softly, “Michael, you’re not the first young man to put on panties. It’s ok, you know.”
A young boy is caught crossdressing.
The long game.
I was twelve years old when my step sister caught me. I was in her room, returning her panties. She was older than me, a beautiful 19 and fully a woman. I stood in her room, guiltily holding her red silky panties.
Inside I could feel the tears welling up. I was confused, and had been taking her panties now and then, unsure why, but enjoying pulling them on and posing in front of the big mirror in my mother’s room, when the house was empty.
“I should tell your mommy, you know. It would break her heart, of course,” she said condescendingly. “You wouldn’t care about that though. Why would you care for other people’s feelings, if you think it’s ok to creep around taking their clothes.”
I don’t know how I’m going to squeeze it all in! All the shopping, parties, family events, and looking after so many members! Well, perhaps I should take my own advice and lubricate things with a little help from Amazon.
Here’s a few great Christmas ideas. I must say my idea of a wonderful Christmas would be for Amanda, my wife’s appalling friend, to emigrate to Molvania – though I doubt it’s likely to happen any time soon. And let’s face it, Pig And Pig Farmer would be unlikely to find another editor of her enormous caliber.
Enjoy my Christmas list and add some ideas of your own in the comments section. FD
|Sylvester, My mechanic just loves messing around in his workshop. If it’s not covered in oil and slippery to the touch, it’s just not his thing! Here’s a few ideas.|
|Sebastian. My personal trainer is a health nut. He’s all about vegetables, getting sweaty on the mat and working up a sweat. I hate to disappoint him. He’s going to love these yoga accessories.|
|Ali. Ali is often a dirty boy in my garden. He’s a wonderful gardener, but being a Syrian refugee is still getting things together here. I’m always happy to lend a hand.|
|Bernard. He’s a wonderful photographer and a great artist. He loves to travel with me on shoots and assignments for the advertising agency. Plenty of good ideas here. I had thought of giving him a carrot, in view of recent events but it seemed a little unkind.|
|Julie: She’s hard at it with our Admirer members. Always very diligent and communicative, I thought a nice little piece of technology would help her out.|
|Oakley and Katia. These two are easy. They love anything lacy and sexy – though Katia leans toward leather and studded.|
|Amanda: My wife’s appaling friend would do well to have a walking tour of Molvania. Taking in the oldest operating nuclear facility in eastern Europe, and meeting interesting people who have never visited a dentist sounds right up her street.|
|Everyone else! I never like to be caught off guard and find I’ve forgotten about a friends gift. With this in mind I always have a few Amazon Gift Cards about the place. Being able to pull one out and hand it to a surprise guest leaves me looking particularly generous and them feeling totally embarrassed at forgetting to bring a gift!|
As we approach the end of the year I’ve been having Max do some data work on some of our projects. One of our most successful is My Little Black Book – it’s connecting many people here in Canada, the US and Mexico. However, I notice that there are just two German members at present.
It goes without saying that everybody out to have a maid, but when one of my friends recently mentioned the matter of a PVC maids costume, I felt compelled to put this on the site. Enjoy! FD
You know, one of the greatest challenges in running a site like this is the supply of creative content. It seems a batch of images that we obtained were from a source that failed to check the proper copyright status. As a result we’ve had some awkwardness around those images.
While it’s a tough task, we want to do it right. With this in mind, I’d love you to help us out. If you see an image on FionaDobson.com that you are concerned about, please email me directly at firstname.lastname@example.org – we’d like to do this right and avoid causing any offence or upset.
My regular gurls understand how very seriously we take our program, and being supportive to the crossdressing community. So, with your help I am sure we’ll be able to square things away.
Life is never dull here in Huckleberry Close. You’d never think my downward dog could cause such a mess.
The votes are in and the results are a conclusive win for Sarah Huckabee Sanders.
Now I’ve promised myself not to say anything unkind here about Sarah, it’s just the kind of person I am. So, here goes. It’s a good pic isn’t it. It’s from Associated Press, who I worked for, for years.
Sarah does a lot to make CDs look wonderful. I’m going to leave it there.
As the first recipient of this prestigious award I’m hoping she’ll continue to set a great example to those around her being accepting of trans, CD and all alternative lifestyles… Hang on, I think I’m choking up. OK, let’s move on with 2018.
Sarah got 63% of the votes, bless her, and beat off Ray Gillette, and Bernard The Photographer.