As the New Year kicks into gear I am pleased to see Ali getting to grips with my garden. As you know, Ali is my Syrian gardener, and a recent immigrant to Canada. He is a diligent worker and has thrown himself into the task of managing my garden.
A university professor of botany in his home country, he has come to build a new life here in our country, along with his lovely wife and two delightful daughters. Here in Canada we welcome new friends from around the world, and embrace the chance to add to the deep culture of this diverse and remarkable country.
âWe donât have an equivalent of your âSanta Clausâ,â he recently explained while we were working at preparing the greenhouse for this years plants. âBesides, anything flying over our airspace at low altitude stands a good chance of being shot down. And⊠well, reindeer meat⊠I think heâs well advised to respect the no-fly zone.â
âBe that as it may, Ali,â I said. âIâm most concerned about Amanda and Marjory. All through the Christmas season I barely saw them. I know itâs been harder this Christmas with the whole Covid thing, but youâd think sheâd say hello over the garden fence.
âFiona, theyâve been very busy. Amandaâs been there all week. And you know what theyâre like,â replied Ali.
I donât think Ali really approves of the nature of Amandaâs relationship with Marjory. Same sex partnerships are not exactly common place in Syria, on account of people not wanting to be stoned to death in the public square.
âAll the noise and fuss they make,â said Ali. âItâs very disruptive.â
âDonât worry,â I assured him. âYouâll get used to it. Besides, it must be nice to be in love.â
âThey were making an Italian dish yesterday with the left over turkey,â he mused, while cleaning one of the planting beds in the greenhouse.
âThat sounds lovely. One of the things I enjoy about Christmas is getting creative with all those meals using turkey in the days that follow. I had turkey curry yesterday, myself.â
âIf I over heard it correctly, Amanda got her finger stuck in the pasta maker. It was quite disturbing,â said Ali.
âOh,â I said surprised. âI thought Marjory made the pasta.â
âYes,â replied Ali. âShe does.â
But thatâs not the main reason I am writing to you today, as we go into what I think we are all hoping is a more hopeful year than last. I understand many of us are finding it harder to dress during the lockdowns that we must inevitably endure. I also realise that this increases the stress for all of us, and I want to make a suggestion that I find has helped many of my members.
While it would be wonderful to be able to dress everyday, all day, many of my members are simply unable to do this. When it is impossible to dress, for whatever reason, thereâs still the middle ground, of becoming more androgynous. This is a way to start shifting what you wear to something somewhat more feminine, though without being entirely crossdressed. If you get creative youâll find ways to do this, and enjoy that middle ground in the gender spectrum.
It could be as simple as shifting the colors you wear. Pastel colors and moving away from hard contrast color patterns is somewhat more feminine and gentle. Equally, going for the lambswool sweater and softer fabrics is always more enjoyable.
For others it will be engaging a more feminine clothing style, without crossing the line. Nice jeans can bring out the shape of your legs, and if all you need to do is add heels to shift over the line, then youâre always just moments from being able to crossdress. Sometimes the only difference between dressing straight or crossdressed is the presence of eye makeup.
If youâd like some ideas about androgynous style, check out my Pinterest Page for more inspiration.
Letâs make 2021 a wonderful year. Don’t let Covid get you down. This is where we learn patience – a good lesson for anyone who is trans. If you’re struggling and haven’t done so already, remember my Whatsapp Group is a great way to connect with others and see yourself through this challenging time. Alternatively, remember there’s a host of entertaining stories right here. Be sure to enjoy the video below.
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Fiona
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