I will admit that going out to dinner with Sylvester in a formal setting is somewhat like taking out a baboon in a tuxedo, however I do enjoy dressing for dinner and using any excuse to wear an evening gown.
Of course, my work at the advertising agency does require me to attend several formal dinners every month. So, with this in mind I thought I’d give a little attention to the idea of more formal wear.
So many times I’ve seen my lovely members spend their time and energy on lingerie without giving proper attention to the other dressing opportunities that present themselves. Having a few friends over for a formal dinner is a lovely way to celebrate at home, and presents a great opportunity to enjoy some delightful clothes in a comfortable setting.
A lovely aspect of so many of these dresses is that they do show of the shape of the body so well. So if you are inclined to either use body shapers or really work on your physical shape, they are a great addition to any crossdressing wardrobe. And what better excuse do you need to wear a corset?
Ordering online is increasingly easy and of course the selection is very broad. Be sure you check measurements, as there’s no joy in finding you’re squeezing into something that’s really too small.
You know keeping your body in shape is never a bad idea. However most gym exercises are very yang in nature – elevating the core energy of the body. There’s a great deal to be gained by releasing the tension in the body through a more yin form of exercise. That’s why yin yoga, or a hatha yoga class is so very important.
Some people identify this as a more feminine form of energy. I don’t really go quite that far, but I do feel that releasing tension through the use of yin yoga calm both the body and the mind. This allows me to be myself – a very feminine person.
Now, since Sebastian, my personal trainer, is off on some foolish jaunt to Molvania, teaching the less fortunate of the world about the benefits of being a vegan, I am left to take care of my own personal training needs. Honestly, how can someone be so selfish! Heâs doing a stint with Personal Trainers Without Borders. Seems very egocentric to me.
Instead I will have to do my own yoga routine, along with Julie, Katia and Marjory from next door. Sylvester offered to come round and help me realign my chakras, but Iâm not entirely sure that he interprets that the same way as I do. To be honest heâs far more useful greasing a half shaft and helping me with my fluids. In the car. He really can be very coarse at times.
However, I do think I should talk a little about exercise and how very important it is for all of us who crossdress. You may remember my photographer, Bernard, recently had some heart troubles resulting in a heart transplant. I am convinced this is because he doesnât exercise properly. He really should be more committed. Admittedly being tazered certainly didnât help. None the less he should be more aware of his health. Mind you, heâs not as bad as his brother, Fat Stewart. He hauls his bloated carcass around in a Ford F150 and is only likely to lose weight if he gets flensed.
So, after chatting with Marissa, one of my lovely members, I was put in mind of some of the benefits of exercising in the proper manner. Thatâs right, as a crossdresser itâs not as simple as merely going into a gym and lifting weights. If you want to look like Sylvester Stallone in a dress that might work for you, but if youâre looking for a more feminine shape itâs not going to do the things youâre looking for.
Most typical gym exercises are very yang in nature. The elevate the energy within the core of the body. As a crossdresser youâre looking for something a little different. Pumping iron bunches up the muscles and can even elevate anxiety. This is the reverse of where you want to be.
When you swim, particularly breast stroke, you are releasing energy. A slow methodical pace, using each stroke to release and push away tension, leave the body relaxed and supple. Crawl, or swimming in an over arm stroke, is more like a core exercise and isnât what youâre looking for. The yin-like exercise of breast stroke, preferably daily, is extremely healthy and calming. Itâs gentle. That feels more like where you need to go, doesnât it?
Doing yoga is one of the best ways to allow your feminine energy to emerge. Thereâs no rocket science here. Getting into either Hatha, or better still, Yin yoga is a great way to find that side of yourself. Now, a word of caution. Donât just wander into any yoga class, if youâre not sure what youâre looking for. An Ashtanga yoga class has more in common with a martial arts workout than what you likely think yoga is. You are looking for Hatha or Yin styles of yoga.
If youâre unable to get into a class I can thoroughly recommend Esther Ekhartâs website here: https://www.ekhartyoga.com/
I donât get paid to recommend Esther. Sheâs lovely.
Have a lovely week, and try to get into a yoga class. If you’re a Patron and Seahorse Level of higher, you can also enjoy this spectacular self hypnosis file to make the experience all the more exciting and feminine.
Iâve just come to my office from a heated debate that took place in my kitchen first thing this morning just when I was getting ready to update my Pinterest with some lovely crossdressing fashion ideas. Iâd just had my yoga session with Amanda and Marjory, when I cornered Sebastian, my personal trainer, to ask him about his forthcoming trip to Molvania to work with Personal Trainers Without Borders.
âBut Sebastian,â I said, the concern oozing from my every syllable, âwhy Molvania? Itâs hardly a travel destination anyone envies.â
âOh, I donât know? I had an aunt that went there to get married. It seemed quite a bargain, and the hotel seemed eager for the business.â
âReally? What did she think of it?â
âWell, funny thing. That was the last we ever heard of her or the wedding party.â
âYou see? Thatâs what Iâm talking about.â I was exasperated. I know Sebastian has this thing about âadventure travelâ, and itâs true he has been some pretty wild places â punctuated by long hospital stays and some unusual insurance claims â but those were essentially recreational in nature. Well, as recreational as extreme gastric distress can be. Giardia hardly qualifies as an Olympic sport.
âI just donât see why you need to teach Molvanians about diet. Itâs not like they have a famine or anything.â
Sebastian looked a little disheartened.
âFiona,â he sighed. âI just want to do my bit. Personal Trainers Without Borders has asked me to help. How can I say no?â
âWell, how many others have they got working in Molvania?â I asked.
âI know they sent two other people to the area Iâm going to.â He said.
âAnd how are they getting along?â
âWell, theyâve not actually managed to report back yet. One may be in prison. They didnât seem very clear about it.â At this even Sebastian looked a little doubtful.
âIâm not letting you go!â I said. This was ridiculous. Even my wife, an experienced traveler of many years wouldnât go unless there was a good chance sheâd be coming back. I must admit Iâve had my doubts about the nature of her travel at times. âServing the communityâ can cover a multitude of sins, after all. But Sebastian is comparatively innocent (not a word that immediately springs to mind when describing my wife). We might never get to see Sebastian again. Heâd be a mere memory of spandex cycling shorts and feint smell of homeopathic muscle balm that had been carried off in the wind.
âI will not be found wanting!â declared Sebastian heroically.
I should give you some background. Sebastian is not short of courage. Heâs been up the Devilâs Danglers, pioneering the âshaft ascentâ more than once and is proven in the field of extreme adventure sports. He tells us that moments after he was born he fell from the delivery bed, only to be caught up by the umbilical cord, giving him a credible claim to being the worlds youngest bungee jumper. However, none of this justified the unnecessary risk of going to the wilds of Molvania, to educate the locals about nutrition.
âI shall speak to Bernard,â I said forcefully. âHeâs got a brother in the Canadian Border Services. Heâll have a word with the boys in charge and theyâll pull your passport. Weâll say youâre of unsound mind! I think his brotherâs nameâs Jeff.â
At this point Ali, my Syrian gardener leaned in through the window where heâd been trimming my bush.
âI know Jeff,â piped up Ali. âIs he Bernardâs brother?â
âYes,â I said.
âIâll tell him not to let Sebastian out, if you like,â said Ali helpfully.
âAli! Thatâs unfair,â protested Sebastian.
âDonât tell me about it,â replied Ali, a look of concerned resignation on his face. âTell Jeff. I think heâs got a form you can fill in. Something like that.â
So you see, things are all of a quiver here in Huckleberry Close. I think itâs spring fever. Now, if youâd like to help me along and jump into my Patreon youâd be doing me a huge favor. Iâm trying to get it up to fifty as quickly as possible. You can join for as little as just $1 a month.
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What a beautiful spring morning here in Huckleberry Close. Itâs a very special day for me, though you likely donât realise it. Three years ago today I started writing the story âClothes Maketh The Manâ, which led to the development of my program and this extraordinary journey.
In that time, as close as Max and I can calculate, something like 85,000 people have enjoyed the story. I find this on the one hand encouraging, and on the other a little disturbing!
In celebration I think Sylvester and Ali have something planned. They keep making spurious excuses to drop by mid morning. Sylvester tells me he wants to âcheck my fluidsâ, which I think has something to do with the car. Ali is insistent that he was to drop of a couple of hoes. At least thatâs what I think he said. He has been wanting new gardening equipment.
Anyway, itâs also International Womenâs Day, and in honor of that I am including a video one of my dearest members suggested. Iâm sure youâll enjoy it!
As you doubtless know, I consider it my responsibility to be
a guardian of my friends health. Itâs just the giving nature of the person that
I am. I canât really help it, but as some have commented I am something of a
carer, some have even used the word âhealerâ.
I suppose that when one is gifted in this particular
direction it is unfair on others to ignore this talent. Which brings me to my
concerns recently for Sylvester. I expect youâre aware that he drives the
Zamboni at the local ice rink on occasion. I should also point out that here in
Montreal Hockey is something of a religion. To be a driver of the Zamboni is to
be a high priest in the church.
However, in this particular church there appears to be
something of a schism. Maurice, another Zamboni driver, has been going wild on
the ice in a manner that irritates Sylvester and things have reach boiling
point. While the details of the matter are beyond me, it appears Maurice has
been âfreestylingâ on the ice.
There will be people that don’t like this, but as an advertising exec, I see just how wonderful it really is. It’s a very brave step, and done with great humanity.
There are many âfirst timesâ when we crossdress. One of the most challenging is the first time we go out in public. Like so many things, this is best approached with a good plan, and in as controlled a situation as possible.
I am going to describe this as it worked best for me, and of course there is no particular right or wrong way to manage it. There are probably as many ways as there are corssdressers. I feel particularly fortunate that my own experience was fortunate enough to have been a very positive one, and one that may be a good template for others to follow.
I am thrilled to be offering content from my naughty friend, Mistress Meg to my Seahorses. Anyone joining at Seahorse level of above gets a collection of her messages, stories and quite explicit content, and of course regular updates.Â
I generally keep content of that nature off the website and in the Patreon platform, as it’s much better suited to that type of material. I’d love you to be able to enjoy some of these adult oriented offerings. Be sure to check out Patreon HERE.