Finding friends to crossdress with may be easier than you thought.

Finding friends to crossdress with may be easier than you thought.

My Little Black Book is a great service for my crossdressing friends, and those who admire them. Members of this exclusive club are able to list their details so others can reach out and contact them very easily. Seeing the listings is free, and it allows you to connect with people interested in chatting, meeting or dating. Everyone listed is interested in hearing from others. My Admirer members are definitely looking to date crossdressers and would love you to contact them.

I’ve recently added a new feature to My Little Black Book.  Not only can other members reach out to you, but now my friends that download The Fiona Dobson Crossdressing App get free access to the listings. Now, if you do wish to be listed in My Little Black Book, you still have to join and pay the monthly fee of $2.95 for a crossdresser, or $4.95 for an Admirer. I do have a method for female Admirer Members to get into the book at no cost, which you can find here.

So, be sure to download the App, and have some fun with My Little Black Book.

😊

Fiona

Power it up with Pink!

It’s a wonderful time to color up your wardrobe with some pink sneakers. Here’s a few cool options. These are great for on the beach, or at the fitness studio.


Sebastian, my personal trainer, had always liked me to wear my pink trainers when working out. He tells me that when they are just behind my ears the color offsets the glow of my cheek. He’s a very naughty trainer.

Pink was not always a feminine color, there being several military uniforms of the Napolionic era that included pink trim. Only at the end of the 1800’s did the color begin to take on a feminine undertone. You can learn a little more about the cultural history of ‘pink’ here.

For a crossdresser pink offers the opportunity to introduce an overtly feminine accessory that softens the most manly of presentations. Remember, when buying femme shoe sizes add at least two sizes to convert to a male size. If you have broad feet this may not be enough.

“Shut up and eat your squid, you stupid bitch!” – words for a crossdresser to live by.

Hi,

Today I’m sending you a short message today from Puerto Vallarta in Mexico, and will likely send you an update later this week.  I admit this is me being lazy, but it’s something you may enjoy.

Having a few extra airmiles, I decided to bring Sylvester with me on a quick getaway. I thought that the sun might do him good. Poor fellow spends so much time covered in oil under vehicles, with some enormous tool in his hand, although I am sure that’s some people’s idea of heaven (Mildred!). I’m sure it all gets very frustrating for Sylvester. So, in the spirit of kindness I asked him to join me for a short break on the Pacific coast of Mexico.

It’s a delightful place to visit and very liberal. We feel so welcomed on what can best be described as ‘the fun side of the wall’. Our Mexican friends are not only very liberal, they’re also fun loving and accepting. I’d always recommend this area to my members who want somewhere to escape to where they can find an exciting local scene free of judgement.

It has been a glorious few days, however fate played a curious part when Sylvester ended up sitting in the Skybar pool, chatting to a delightful Afro-American lady. Isn’t it funny when a person just gets carried away, before long their brain just seems to shut down to the gentle sizzling sound of their skin being turned to something resembling bacon as the sun feasts on their fair Northern European flesh.

As we walked down the street later that evening, Sylvester as red as a firetruck that had just had a fresh coat of paint, and myself tottering along the cobbled streets on a pair of lovely new heels, I couldn’t help commenting to my swarthy friend, “Well, at least when people see the two of us, they’ll know I’m the sensible one. They’ll marvel at what you’ve done to yourself, and then say ‘Well, I guess the crossdresser is the good looks and the brains in that equation.’”

“Do you really think people will notice?” said Sylvester.

“Well, only if they can stop laughing long enough to register it. I mean, let’s face it, they’ll have to get past the waves of heat rolling from your body. Perhaps they’ll think you’re in a circus or something. You know, some sort of performer. That or that you were involved in some kind of nuclear accident.”

As I voiced the sentiment, Sylvester shifted uneasily in his shirt, which must have felt like a razor against his beet red skin. We’d ordered some delicious seafood, and I ate as elegantly as I could, while admiring my new shoes at the same time. The food was excellent, and the restaurant, overlooking the old cathedral in the city centre, afforded a wonderful view of the night lit city, alive with parties and fun, and a little lightning dancing on the far seaward horizon.

“Look,” I said to Sylvester, “We should focus on the positive. If it gets chilly in the evening, I can just ask you to move a little closer and you’ll keep me nice and toasty! You’re like some energy efficient heater. Although to be fair you’re really screwing up the global warming thing!”

“Shut up and eat your squid, you bitch!” Said Sylvester with a laugh, and for a moment I was lost in the magical warmth of the night. What lovely words to live by. We should all ‘shut up and eat our squid’ at times, I thought reflectively. And that’s so like Sylvester, really. I leaned over and slapped him on the back in gratitude for his worldly wisdom.

Have a lovely week.

😊

Fiona

Tribute to The Gibson Girl – by Monica

 

You can Follow Monica’s blog here: https://onlymonica.tumblr.com/

Charles Dana Gibson was an illustrator in the late 19th century who created classic drawings of young, pure women with gorgeous hairstyles and bedroom eye looks on divinely beautiful faces. The women depicted were full figured and voluptuous, yet still virtuous. And always refined and feminine. I did this hairstyle myself using one of my wigs, and it took a while to do it. I added a chiffon blouse with and ornate lacy upper bodice and a high ruffled neck, coupled with a genuine vintage Gunne Sax prairie skirt. It was about as Victorian a look as I was able to muster with what I had on hand.

I recently picked up some more Victorian-style blouses, mainly because I kept my eyes peeled for them. Every time I see a Victorian-era film or T.V. show, it increases my interest in the styles. One thing I’m going to try in the not-too-distant future is adding a bustle under some of my roomier long skirts and dresses, just to see if I can pull it off…that is, pull off the look, not the dress…

Monica

Read more about Gibson here: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gibson_Girl

Follow Monica’s blog here: https://onlymonica.tumblr.com/

Build a summer outfit for sunny crossdressing fun.

It’s time to put together something exciting for summer. Here’s a great place to start.

FD

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Check it out on Amazon. Find that perfect outfit.

Lightweight, cheap and fun. Crocs make some funky wedges. Remember to add 2 sizes to get a women’s shoe to fit a male foot!

Mesh panties are fun and comfortable to exercise in. Just don’t wear them to the pool and go into the male changing rooms.

Find the perfect summer dress here.
You just can’t beat corset tops for a fresh summer look.

An English Country Garden

An English Country Garden is a powerful real life story about how crossdressing has impacted the life of Julius Braddock, a former press photographer from South Africa. It is a serious study of crossdressing, and Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

At times frightening and poignant, the story explores the extremes of human emotions and looks at how crossdressing helps, and how one particular person can change the experience of crossdressing radically. Looking at stages familiar to most people who crossdress, this narrative provides a touching and helpful insight to allowing feminine aspect of oneself to develop.

The narrative is delivered in four sections, and readers are encouraged to comment and share thoughts about each part, to provide their own insights and experience to others on this journey.

An English Country Garden is free but I do ask you to use the comments as you work through the four parts. It helps others. FD

You can continue to Part 1 by using the link below.

Continue reading “An English Country Garden”

Clothes Maketh The Man

Clothes Maketh The Man is an iconic serial about crossdressing that’s been running since 2016. New episodes are added monthly, as we follow the hapless adventures of Andy – or Andrea – as he progresses in a tortured path fuelled by curiosity, passion and excitement.

FIND EPISODE 1 HERE.

FIND THE LATEST EPISODE HERE.

Have you ever felt that perhaps you’ve placed your trust in the wrong person? Well, welcome to Andy’s world. He progresses from seemingly innocent situation to catastrophe with a regularity that will entertain you, and hopefully you’ll never experience. Imagine the moment when a trusted friend says ‘Trust me!‘ – and suddenly you realize things are going to go very, very badly.

Clothes Maketh The Man

You can always find the latest version of Clothes Maketh The Man by using the search box on the home page of http://FionaDobson.com – or just by using this link. Search For Clothes Maketh The Man.

If you’re enjoying the story, be sure to comment on the pages!

🙂

Fiona

– http://FionaDobson.com

We surveyed 2389 of our crossdresser members to see how they defined themselves. Here are the results.

We surveyed 2389 of our crossdresser members to see how they defined themselves. Here are the results.

Do you consider yourself heterosexual, bisexual or gay?

Heterosexual 786 (35%)
Bisexual 1105 (49%)
Gay 189 (8%)
None of the above 189 (8%)
 
There were also some very interesting comments made by some of our respondents. Poor Max, he’s been slaving over these numbers, and bringing them down to me as I sit in the spring sunshine.
 
 
When I saw how many people said ‘none of the above’ I nearly dropped my Martini! I’ve sent him back three times already to check those numbers, and bring me some sunscreen as well. He’s a good boy.
 
 
Among the comments one theme that came through was that some members found that if they were dressing at the time, they felt they were bisexual, however in the day to day life of dressing straight, they ‘felt’ straight and had no same sex attraction whatsoever.
 
 
One correspondent noted, rather unusually, ‘I’m 100% straight, I just like dick.’ I did feel the urge to probe that a little further, but resisted. After the first 500 responses the balance stayed more or less where it was at completion, so I am inclined to think these numbers are quite reflective of crossdressing friends.
 
 
One respondent did comment:
“Mainly hetero, occasionally bi, bordering on the lesbian part of my gurlishness.  Very often scratching my errrr… you know whats, in utter confusion about the gurl thing, and asking myself – “Why did I have to born a Catholic ?” That bit accounts for most of the guilt that rears its head once in a while…. :)”
 
 
Another said:
“I wish I was bisexual,  Haven’t taken that leap of faith and played with a crossdresser like myself, but want it so bad.  I hope for the best – that’s all you can do. And find a safe place to meet some one . I love all that you do .xoxo Patrisha”
 
 
 
 
Many of our respondents had the following sentiment:
“I love my wife of 31 years. I love to crossdress and feel girly. I have no desire to be with a man.”
 
 
I have seen quite a few comments that reflect the following:
“Never had a gay contact, might enjoy it if I was “forced” by my mistress.”
That’s very much about permission, and something into which we delve in the Premium Program.
 
 
One of my favorite comments was:
“I’m heterosexual but finding myself metamorphing into a more feminine persona every time I listen to your hypnosis, read your emails personally addressed to me and spend time fantisizing about cross dressing. Right this moment I’m finding myself feeling quite gay thinking about being taken by men.”
 
 
And another:
“I love it when I’m allowed to be the real me, Heather, because that’s who I really am. I enjoy being treated as a real women and this includes sexually. I’ve had several relationships over the years and have been used, but I had one partner who awoke the real Heather in me just with his touch. He was very special.”
 
 
The theme of sexual preference shifting when dressed was shown again in this comment:
“I’m always attracted to women AND when I\’m dressed, the opposite gender is especially enticing, and women and interesting in a whole different way.”
 
 
An interesting response was:
“Love being dominant with women and submissive with men.”
 
 
This was a common theme, too:
I have crossdressed for most of my 50+ years. I love it, and have a difficult time in finding a genetic female to accept me for the well rounded person that I have become. If I have to choose, I will remain alone.”
With this in mind I’ll be doing a little more work shortly about how to find a female collaborator with which to enjoy your crossdressing. Should you know any women who’d like to chat about this to help men understand what they get from it, please email me at fdobson@zoho.com
 
 
Feel free to comment below if you’d like to add anything.
 
🙂
 
Fiona
 
– http://FionaDobson.com
 
 
 
 
 
 

What do you think of my dumplings?

Hi,

“If we slip this sausage between these two buns,” I said to Sylvester, “it looks pretty tasty.”

“I think a little cream…” mused Sylvester, thoughtfully. “Oh… Sebastian’s coming…”

“I’m sorry?” I said.

“Sebastian’s coming! He maķes a lovely seafood dip!” continued Sylvester. “Yes, he’s a good man with a welk. But I think it’s your dumplings that are really going to get people excited,” insisted my hairy friend.

“Yes, I’ve noticed they seem to get people going!”

As you can doubtless tell, Sylvester and I are planning the spring picnic. I’m thrilled to say my wife has returned from her travels.

Regrettably I find myself called away on business in England. I’ll be be returning shortly after she leaves on a long planned ornithological holiday touring western Europe with Amanda and Marjory. I understand she’s been blown away by some of the lesser finches and the abundance of tits.

It’s such a busy time of year but I hope you’re not too busy to participate in My Little Black Book, where for just $2.95 a month you can connect with some new friends from around the globe or around the corner. It can be so nice just to share a little time on Skype and chat about your dressing and compare notes. Perhaps you’ll connect with some friends and find yourself organizing an ornithological tour for yourselves. Who knows, you may even find yourself getting to grips with some tits of your own!

😀

Fiona

Whether you’re one of our members in Africa, or in the far hills of India, Julie, Katia, Oakley and I are here to support you. 70% of our members are in North America, by I strive to include content of interest to our global audience of over 1000 unique visitors a day.  🙂  Fiona

It’s Lipstick Time!

We’re not always going to have the time to get completely dressed. Here’s a great way to quickly enjoy the feminine side of yourself.

This self hypnosis recording will help you feel comfortable using a little lipstick to emphasize the sensual nature of your personality. Be sure you have some lipstick with you when you do this wonderful exercise.

Your new feminine identity. Self Hypnosis.

When you join my Premium Program for crossdressers, one of the first things we do is assign a name for you, if you haven’t already chosen one. In this simple self hypnosis file we’ve created a powerful tool to help you accept your new name, and learn to identify with it.

Enjoy this relaxing exercise and let me know how you get along with it.

Releasing Shame With Hypnosis.

Feeling a little guilty about crossdressing? Don’t worry, it’s perfectly natural to feel conflicted feelings about crossdressing. On the one hand you love to do it, at the same time you feel upset about it. This hypnosis file will help you feel more relaxed about it.

 

Let’s get a little formal.

Most crossdressers enjoy their activities in a somewhat private way. Unlike ‘drag queens’ they feel a sense of privacy adds to their enjoyment, and definitely don’t wish to step outside of their comfort zone unless there is a well established confidence already built.

While this isn’t the case for everyone, it’s certainly the case for many of my members. I was saying to Sebastian just this Wednesday, as he was helping me adjust my yoga position, I feel an intimate connection with every one of my members. I feel that I understand their struggle and their joy. And it’s a path that’s sadly not understood by many. Even as Sebastian helped me into an inversion, I said that the connection is one that is deep and very personal.

With that in mind, I thought I’d talk this week about wearing some clothes somewhat less associated with crossdressing. I think we all agree that lovely soft evening gowns are very beautiful. For the average woman, there’s a desire to wear them out and be seen. Ironically, because crossdressers tend not to want to go outside in such a public exposure (at least in the early part of their journey), this is an activity that is denied us by society.

That however does not mean that you can’t enjoy these wonderful garments. Especially these days, the cost is not prohibitive. There’s nothing in the world wrong with being ‘overdressed’ in the privacy of your own home. Remember, it’s not so long ago that many people ‘dressed for dinner’.

With this in  mind, this week I’m featuring these lovely gowns. You can buy these and wear them in the privacy of your own home, enjoy their delightful flow and movement, and perhaps wear them in public  – when you are ready.

Enjoy them, and remember you can buy them at very reasonable rates online.

In the meantime, sometimes you have to learn to be invisible.