There’s a temptation to think of crossdressing as something people only do in the privacy of an intimate environment. In many cases that is true, though most of us would like to take it further, but stifle this desire.
Breaking out of this mold and dressing outdoors is a major step for many of us and leads to a better understanding of the fluid nature of our gender. Once the initial trepidation is over come – and, yes, I could write a book on that alone – then a new world emerges. It feels wonderful to find this, and for many it’s the first time they feel entirely comfortable and can be themselves.
As one enjoys the freedom to wear what we want, and be who we are, it starts to feel increasingly comfortable. I often point people toward this article to get a better basic understanding of crossdressing, and what it means to you. It’s the experience in the end that is our best teacher, though. It takes courage to make those first steps. You might think of it as the price you have to pay to be your true self.
As you take the first steps outside, it’s not likely you’re going to be doing so in stiletto heels and flowing dresses (unless it’s in the clubs – do we even still have clubs in this Covid world?). You are likely going to feel more comfortable in a more androgynous look at first. This is also easier for some of the people around us to accept. After all, as much as you want to feel comfortable, you are unlikely to if those around you are uncomfortable.
It is unfortunately our lot that we have to consider others around us. As we accept that feminine side of ourselves, part of it is to be considerate to others. It’s just part of the journey. Don’t expect your considerate nature to be reciprocated. Finding a level of dressing that keeps everyone happy a good idea. We need not pander to the whims of society in our own homes, but in public it’s generally a good idea.
As much as you may want to put on a bright pink dress and mince down the road smelling each flower as you progress toward the iron foundry you work at, all the while reciting poetry, this may not go down well. Especially with the foreman.
One area in which it is easy to be yourself is in outdoor activities. Whether it’s sailing on the bay, getting out on the golf course, or hiking up to a glacier there are many opportunities to wear what you like in the privacy of a 10,000 hectare national park. The same can be said of going fishing, skiing and many other outdoor activities. Before you say, but that’s not very feminine, just keep in mind that there’s plenty of women that do these activities and manage to do so with style and panache that most men would do well to emulate. Dropping those gender preconceptions is a good idea. I’ve a cousin who can ride a horse better than any man I’ve ever known, rope a steer and wrestle it to the ground, and still manage to look like she’s just stepped off a photo set.
As we move into fall and continue to practice social distancing this could be a great opportunity to get out and enjoy some healthy pastimes. And remember, Mother Nature wears a dress too.