I received a lovely email today from one of our Premium Members, Helena. She had just completed the second of the Premium tasks, and was kind enough to provide the following report back. I thought I’d post it as she writes so very well, and also as an indication of how some of these tasks can help my gurls develop. Helena writes:
I completed task #2!
I went to Walmart to buy 3 pair of panties and fishnet pantyhose.
When I arrived I started roaming near the lingerie section, I was very nervous so I had to make sure there weren’t many girls nearby, was trying to avoid any looks or something. But when I started browsing, hunting for the simple black ones, I realized you are totally right!
They are just minding their own business when shopping and didn’t even look at me, even the attendant woman was like, I just wanna get out of here, yawning even. So that relaxed me immediately, I just browsed everything in there, and picked 3 pairs, one simple and black, some lacy red ones, and a pinkish thong with black highlights.
I am a tall person so I went for XL and they fit nicely, maybe a bit snug, but I like how they look, then I continued over to the nylons and stockings section and had more trouble with sizing than anything else,
I stayed there some time wondering and the attendant came along and asked me if I needed help, as natural as I could I just told her I was having trouble with the length of the nylons and she suggested a pair of fishnet pantyhose, because even if I didn’t know my length they were flexible in that regard, more so than stockings which may be too short and unfixable, pantyhose would be more suitable, and fishnets do provide more stretch and resistance she said, so I just went with her suggestion and thanked her for it 😀
At home I tried them all on immediately and found them to be good choices. Thank you so much!
It was a good start, I feel much more confident now.
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Whether you like to get into a dance class, or just like to do a little yoga at home, you can look wonderful at the bar or on the mat by slipping into something figure hugging and fun.
Now if you read my weekly emails you’ll realise the unfortunate story behind the leotards and the whole thing with Amanda – but if not, you may like to browse through these anyway. You can sign up for the free program here.
For those who want to wear their leotard in a slightly different way, it’s going to look great as a top, over jeans or just a light skirt. As a simple androgenous look there are many leotards that work perfectly, and as a feminine icon, it is of course, spectacular. FD.
I often get asked to repost this, so I thought it would be a good way to start the week. I know many of my members are currently working from home. I think we could have found the new corporate dress code.
As we progress through our Covid winter I know many of my members are going to feel constrained by the challenges of being either locked down, or at the very least restricted in our movements. These are precisely the challenges that we should rise to as we move through the dark months.
It’s quite normal, when unable to dress as we desire, to feel a little down. I’d like to make a few suggestions that may assist those of you unable to indulge your usual dressing practice as much as you’d like. It is important to remember that being non-binary, or crossdressing generally, takes place largely between the ears, and not the legs. How you think, and finding that more sensitive side of your nature, is a very important goal.
You’ll find many of the free hypnosis files available here to be of great help. Keeping your mind in the right place, and training yourself to accept it, is a great step forward on your journey – and one that will provide comfort during those moments when there is no possibility of dressing.
The most helpful thing you can do during this time is to develop a routine during the day. When you get up and have your morning wash and shave, waiting a few minutes and then using a little moisturizer is sure to give your skin a nicer texture and will start the day in a positive way. Give yourself a few minutes after shaving, as you don’t want the pores of your skin to be too open when you use the moisturizer.
If you have the habit of taking a daily walk during the lockdown, you may wish to try an exercise. Imagine walking in a feminine manner and slowing your pace a little. Taking slightly shorter steps and allowing a more feminine motion, as subtly as you reasonably can, is a satisfying and enjoyable process. Observing how a woman moves, and giving yourself that same, more fluid gait is both satisfying and reinforces the gradual changes that you will start to enjoy as you progress along this path.
Using a small amount of eye make up, probably imperceptible to others, is a good habit to form. It’s quite normal to feel others will notice it, but rarely do others notice a subtly applied amount of discrete eye shadow. Using it will make you feel more feminine and satisfy that basic urge we all enjoy as we groom ourselves a little.
Planning, selecting a few interesting outfits and combinations of clothes, and doing a little online research into ordering, can be a useful pastime in preparation for more enjoyable times ahead. One way or another, after all, spring is coming.
These are simple steps. You’ll find many more in the Premium Program, should you wish to move more overtly ahead. Most of all you should remember that crossdressing is about being yourself – your true self – rather than the person society has pressured you into being. Doing so, with or without being able to crossdress, will help you feel more comfortable and better prepare you for the months ahead. And don’t forget, there’s a host of stories here to keep you entertained, either free or within the Patreon platform.
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We are fast approaching the end of summer. I’m preparing for fall and the long wet months of winter. To make my house a little more efficient Sylvester is helping me install some insulation in the loft.
With all these wildfires, don’t you think being a little more aware of the dangers of climate change is a good idea? I said this very thing to Sylvester just the other day.
“I think it’s important we all do our share to reduce our carbon foot prints,” I said to him while in the garden.
I noticed Ali checking the soles of his gardening boots, as I said that.
I continued, “The sooner I get felt up in the loft the better!”
My Pinterest boards are full of great ideas for crossdressers. One of my favorite boards is the fall fashion board below. Have a look and get some great ideas for the rusty reds and browns that come to us with every fall.
Check them out and have some fun.
I walked into Sylvester’s slightly messy workshop along with Ali, who had given me a ride down to the auto repair shop in his Smart Car. I must say it’s a tight squeeze, even though we’re neither of us very large.
I wore a light cotton summer dress and some deck shoes. I offset the look with a necklace of white oversized beads and a matching bangle.
You probably know that Sylvester is something of an inventor. He’s always got one new thing on the go or another. That morning I glanced around at the busy workspace at shafts of metal, Sylvester feverishly fitting sleeves and flanges together, and what looked surprisingly like a disassembled pogo stick on the workbench.
“Dare I ask,” I said.
“It’s a device that will revolutionize the life of anyone needing a prosthetic leg,” replied Sylvester without looking up from what he was doing. “It combines the length of stride of a tall man, with the spring action of a pogo stick. It will make speed walking easier,” he paused and then added uncertainly, “and more exciting.”
“Are you quite sure this is a good idea?” I asked looking at the dubious collection of parts.
Ali looked about the place and then said, “I think I know this thing. It’s a monobouncyunipod.”
Sylvester looked up at him in surprise and said, “I had no idea you were versed in the ways of advanced neo-prosthetic engineering.” He seemed to suddenly have a new respect for Ali, my Syrian gardener.
“What,” said Ali, a little affronted. “You think we didn’t have pogo sticks in Syria before the war? We had many things. We had wonderful things,” he continued, his eyes glazing over as he looked into the distance.
Ali continued, “My next door neighbour, Sara, had one. Bounced around on it all day.” He smiled to himself and then continued, “Her sister hurt herself and had to have part of her nose stitched back on.”
“Well, I don’t think you can call it a ‘Monobouncyunipod’. It doesn’t exactly trip off the tongue. No one will buy it,” I said.
Sylvester looked up from the workbench.
“No, you’re right,” he replied thoughtfully. “I shall call it ‘The Unitard’!”
“Oh, yes,” I said a little sardonically. “I can see it now. ‘Bounce your way to one-legged freedom with The Unitard!’. What could possibly go wrong?”
And that brings me to this weeks exciting suggestions to help you crossdressing. The Unitard is a vastly under rated piece of clothing. And yet, for a crossdresser it’s surprisingly adaptable.
Ideally you want something that covers the arms and legs, so any unshaved areas become a non-issue. Additionally it should be easy to wear, wash and combine with other clothes. Score, score and score.
A nice unitard, combined with a plain wrap around skirt is simple and striking. Whether you just want to lounge about or be more active, check out the unitards on my Pinterest and think about dialling them into your crossdressing wardrobe.
I am traveling a lot at the moment, so expect to see me popping up at unusual hours on the site.
I am working on a special release that will be coming to my Patreon later this week. ‘The Crossdresser’s Guide To Marital Harmony’ is a fun look at how you talk to a partner or spouse about your crossdressing – and indeed if you should. Be sure to join the basic level of my Patreon for just $1 a month to enjoy this. It will start appearing toward the end of this week. I’d also love to see you join my Patreon as I am trying to get up to that magical 100 Patrons level!
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Have a wonderful week,
I will admit that going out to dinner with Sylvester in a formal setting is somewhat like taking out a baboon in a tuxedo, however I do enjoy dressing for dinner and using any excuse to wear an evening gown.
Of course, my work at the advertising agency does require me to attend several formal dinners every month. So, with this in mind I thought I’d give a little attention to the idea of more formal wear.
So many times I’ve seen my lovely members spend their time and energy on lingerie without giving proper attention to the other dressing opportunities that present themselves. Having a few friends over for a formal dinner is a lovely way to celebrate at home, and presents a great opportunity to enjoy some delightful clothes in a comfortable setting.
A lovely aspect of so many of these dresses is that they do show of the shape of the body so well. So if you are inclined to either use body shapers or really work on your physical shape, they are a great addition to any crossdressing wardrobe. And what better excuse do you need to wear a corset?
Ordering online is increasingly easy and of course the selection is very broad. Be sure you check measurements, as there’s no joy in finding you’re squeezing into something that’s really too small.
There can be little doubt that the single piece of crossdressing equipment that makes the greatest impact on how you look is the corset. Suddenly you have a waist, and look very different!
That dress now hangs a little more naturally. You have curves that make you excited and others wild with desire. Everything is different.
You’re going to love the selection below. Take a good look and then experiment. Keep in mind that buying a little larger than you think you need may be a good idea. You can easily be cinched down a size or two.
Remember, it’s great to experiment with a few ideas. If you can find a girlfriend to help you, you’re going to enjoy this even more.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with corsets. They are fun and give you an instant waistline. Some have a longer body style than others. They can be worn over or under a blouse, and there’s the tricky question of whether on not you want an underbust line, or one that cradles breast forms, or your natural breast mass.
Eventually you’ll want to spend a substantial amount on a corset. At that point a professional fitting is a great idea. When you’re spending upwards of $300 on a corset, you don’t want to make mistakes. However, you’ll likely find it’s worth every cents. Until then try any of the ones you see on this page and have some fun with them.
One of the most fun aspects of corsetry is the idea of going steampunk. I love to waer steampunk clothes and the corset is a staple of the style. Below are a few great corsets that can combine with jeans, or a long skirt, and boots, perfect for a steampunk adventure. I can hardly wait to get out there once more.
As summer moves toward its gentle close, and the warming glow of the forest fires in the distance thankfully fade, I am forced to remind myself to make the best of the last weeks of this glorious summer.
What better way to celebrate the sun and move toward fall than by enjoying the soft flow and movement of a stylish and comfortable swing dress. I was saying this to myself as Sebastian sat, dejectedly at my table in the kitchen.
He was staring intently at his phone, a frown firmly welded to his face.
“What on earth’s the matter?” I said, pouring a glass of organic free range goats milk.
“It’s my sister, Charmaine” he said. “She’s so wonderful. But…”
“But what?” I asked.
“But she’s just posted a picture on her Instagram, and there’s a great big ring on her finger. She’s engaged.”
“What delightful news,” I said with a smile.
“Well, it would be delightful. You see she went to Cuba, a lovely little village, and met this wonderful man she’s fallen in love with. She flies back every few months and is so in love.”
“But Sebastian, this is wonderful news,” I gushed. “I’m so happy for Charmaine.”
Sebastian’s sister is so sweet. She has been waiting for the right man so long, and finally her prince has come.
“Well, it would be wonderful. Except this last time she flew to Cuba she was supposed to be at her grandmother’s funeral, and cried off saying she was broke.”
“Oh,” I said.
“And since my mother’s now discovered Instagram, it’s only a matter of time till she learns that instead of planting my dear old granny, she was out gallivanting around the place getting herself engaged to a Cuban. I can almost hear the clock ticking.”
I spread the lovely dress out as I sat, and turned to Sebastian to reassure him.
“Darling,” I said, “I’m sure your grandmother wants nothing less than her grand daughter’s happiness. Besides, the old trout will never know. And your mother will get over it. Your sister has found something magical. and that’s really what counts, isn’t it?”
I know my readers well enough to know that you may have a suggestion to help me here. Help me out and use the comments to suggest what Charmaine should tell her mother.
I think it fair to say that most crossdressers enjoy wearing clothes with style and panache. One great example of someone who does not know how to do this came to the fore recently.
I’ve sent staff home from the office before for ‘looking like you are wearing a garbage bag to work’. When Melania Trump recently showed up with a heartless message on her jacket she proved once more that it really doesn’t matter how much money you have, you can’t buy class. I need hardly add that the children abused by this heartless policy have no voice to counter this ignorance with.
Thanks for reminding us all exactly who you and your family are. As if we needed reminding!
You can add your voice to those who really do care by wearing the tee shirt below.
I was so pleased to see a delivery arrive this morning with some new and colorful socks. As I’m wearing shorter skirts now, I am loving the fact that I can mix and match with some exciting new colors and textures covering my legs.
Here are a few ideas that have got me excited recently. I’m sure that slipping these on when you dress, or even under your usual clothes is sure to add a spring to your step.
|Stockings and Socks||Tell me about them!|
|Picking a beautiful pair of suspender pantyhose is a great choice for instant sex appeal, but also a low maintainance approach to swift dressing. These stockings will make your legs look spectacular and help you feel sexy and attractive in seconds, even if they’ve not been shaved in a while.|
|Get colorful with these packs that offer variety and style. These are perfect to add a special sparkle to a new outfit, or revitalise an older one. Dare to be colorful and you’ll find you can reignite your look with ease.|
|Don’t be afraid to explore the outer limits of good taste! Yes, sometimes it pays to get a little whacky. If you’re the sort of person who knows that if they’re not the wierdest person in the room, then you’re obviously in the wrong room, then you will have to have these great socks. Whether you wear them under your suit in the Funeral home where you work, or you just can’t resist them with a short skirt, then you know you’re on the right track as you pull these beauties on!|
It’s time to put together something exciting for summer. Here’s a great place to start.
|Check it out on Amazon.||Find that perfect outfit.|
|Lightweight, cheap and fun. Crocs make some funky wedges. Remember to add 2 sizes to get a women’s shoe to fit a male foot!|
|Mesh panties are fun and comfortable to exercise in. Just don’t wear them to the pool and go into the male changing rooms.|
|Find the perfect summer dress here.|
|You just can’t beat corset tops for a fresh summer look.|
Many of my members buy their clothing online and love to use Amazon. I’ve got a few selections below based on what my members have been buying this week. Feel free to review any of the products you buy here. I always love to hear from my members. FD
|Some of my favorite sleepwear items are the simplest. Here’s a small selection of items my members have been buying recently, and enjoying.|
|You can’t beat the feel of silky material against the skin. What better way to ensure a wonderful night’s sleep!|
|Try some of these lovely silky pyjamas and see how wonderful you feel in the morning! All fresh and ready to go out and pretend to be almost normal, like all the people who’d love to be enjoying themselves as much as you and I.
I thought I’d touch on something many people ask about. So many of us confine our dressing to lingerie and club wear, and yet we yearn to embrace the feminine within us. This is a little like the person learning to drive practicing in a Formula 1 racing car.
There are many opportunities to enjoy a feminine presentation by adopting a somewhat androgynous look in our day to day life, or even in the workplace. So, today we’re looking at how we can bring aspects of dressing into the work place in subtle ways.
Now, if you wear a uniform at work, this may be a bit of a stretch. The same may be true if you’re working in an iron foundry. However, I’d love to see you get creative and even send in a photo or two of how you bring this one off. Remember, it’s as much about how you feel, as how you look.
Let me give you an example. If you work in an environment in which jeans is ok, try wearing a more feminine cut of jeans. Use a loose sweater with them, and you can still find yourself acceptably dressed for many workplaces. If you were to loop a nice slim belt around your waistline, you’d have moved firmly into the realm of crossdressing – which is likely to be too much for your workplace. So, it’s a matter of finding the threshold and moving a little closer to it, to satisfy that part of you which desires to feel feminine.
If you can find an outfit that works for you, in the knowledge that if you added a wig and heels you’d look feminine, then you know you’re moving in the right direction. Personally, I love to wear a kilt now and then. This is a great way to push the boundaries even further. I understand that this is not going to work for everyone, however, it’s a fun way to push that threshold.
If you are using a little eye make up and a little blush now and then, this will take you even closer to that threshold. Be careful, you may not want to ‘out yourself’ by accident.
Be sure to send me a pic or two if you find you’re able to pull it off. Let me know if I can use them on the website.
Q: How do you wear a kilt?
A: Like you mean it!
A man in a kilt is a man and a half… Except when he’s a chick. Anyway, I thought I’d introduce this idea to you for 2018. Many people feel a little shy about dressing for the first time in public. This is understandable. Putting on a kilt is a great way to ease yourself into it.
“After the first day of wearing a kilt in the office, people hardly noticed it and certainly didn’t comment on it. I now wear a kilt once a week, and if someone comments on it people are more inclined to think they’re a little odd, than the thought that I am!”- Rob
If you’re going to do this, you need to do it right. That means wearing suitable long black socks, a pair of black shoes (Vans do a great black canvas shoe that works well), and a plain sweater. One of my favorite ranges of kilts is provided by Sportkilt. They’ve done a great job popularizing the look. If you buy from them, be sure to let them know Fiona Dobson sent you.
All you need to do to change it up is throw on a pair of fishnets, and some eye shadow and you’re in full crossdress mode!
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|The Black Watch tartan is a proud military tartan, that is not confined to any particular ‘clan’. It is both conservative and stylish.|
|The Wallace Tartan is a bright and flamboyant look, suitable for the younger rebelious type. Worn with a black sweater or a white shirt it can still appear smart, while retaining the bright impact of it’s youthful nature.||;|
|The Utility Kilt is acceptable in many workplaces and is as masculine as you wish it to be. It’s a great look if you’ve never tried it and are not confident enough to step into a more fashionable style of kilt.|
Here’s the perfect pair of shoes to go with a kilt, from Vans:
It goes without saying that everybody out to have a maid, but when one of my friends recently mentioned the matter of a PVC maids costume, I felt compelled to put this on the site. Enjoy! FD