Today the UK Supreme Court ruled that transgender women are not legally women.
The Good Law Project criticised the court for not hearing evidence from trans people and wrote on social media: âThis ruling sets a dangerous precedent and erases trans women from protections. It puts trans rights back 20 years.â
Regardless, we exist. Classify people as what you like – we will continue to exist.
âIn this salad bowl!â he continued. âI think you should use the other one.â
Sylvester is quite a distraction in the kitchen. I motioned him out of the way as I brought out my best salad bowl. Now, I know you might be thinking, what brought on this bout of domesticity? Itâs quite simple really, while I live in the beautiful Canadian city of Vancouver, my wifeâs good friend (and the bane of my life), Amanda, has asked me to research some fun dishes she might be able to make as tariffs kick in. Like I have all the spare time in the world, so why not, right?
âWhat do you mean?â I asked after she asked me to come up with something creative.
âWell, I like to cook with fruits in many of my recipes, like Kiwi fruit or banana, and under these tariffs theyâre going to be hugely expensive.â
âBut I thought the idiot said he would bring those products to the USA and grow them there,â I countered.
âHave you tried to grow a kiwi fruit in Ohio?â said Amanda. Well, she is sort of agriculture adjacent, being the editor of Pig and Pig Farmer monthly.
âI see what you mean. I will come up with something,â I replied.
That got me thinking about cucumbers. I realise this is an under-utilised vegetable â or fruit if you prefer. Surprisingly I think it is actually both a fruit and a vegetable. You might wonder if this is possible, however, if you met Sylvester youâd understand how something can be both a fruit and vegetable simultaneously. And, yes, he is pretty under utilised, too.
So, I dug into my recipe book and found a lovely preparation I used to get ready for friends when I was a student. Itâs so simple that anyone can do it. As a (then) young man, I would impress girlfriends with my prowess in the kitchen. The Anthropology department girls certainly seemed to like it. Here we go:
Youâre going to need the following ingredients â
1/2 cup rice vinegar.
1/2 cup granulated sugar.
1/2 teaspoon salt.
2 large cucumbers.
2 green onions, trimmed and sliced.
Find a large salad bowl, preferably without a crack in it, and also a cup or small bowl. Into the small bowl put the vinegar, the sugar and the salt. I sometimes also squeeze some lemon juice into the cup. Using a sharp knife (hide it after use if you have any suicidal friends visiting, like Rainbow for example), peel and then slice the cucumbers and dice the onions. While you do so the sugar and salt will be dissolving into the vinegar. If it hasnât dissolved well just give it a stir.
All you have to do now is put the cucumbers and onion in the bowl, add the vinegar solution and youâre done. If you want to be extra fancy just add some crumbled feta cheese and halved cherry tomatoes. I guarantee any anthropology students will be all over you and praise your culinary abilities. It also works on wives of 25 years. Let me know how you get along with this.
Now, all I have to do is think of a couple of other things to do with a cucumber. I mentioned this to Sylvester, and â well â he really can be quite coarse at times!
As a busy transgender advertising executive I am constantly amazed at the amount of work I find myself doing. It is, however, nothing compared to what I would have to do to account for all the things that the American government lays blame at our feet for.
For example, according to the great and the wise that sit in the White House, I should by my age have spent millions in public funds on gender affirming care, carried out several school shootings, won and returned several Olympic medals for sporting events I cheated in, shared national secrets with our global enemies, crashed at least one military helicopter into a civil airliner, had several abortions, had at least one complete sex change at the great cost to the public purse while in prison, collected social security on behalf of my great great grandmother, who has been dead for 150 years, eaten my neighbours cat, faked climate change science and of course rigged an election.
All this while trying to stay on top of my gender transition and coordinate my wardrobe and trans a bunch of kids. Itâs insane. I donât think Iâve done even half of those things!
Letâs clear the air on what Transgender means and what the movement is all about.
Transgender is about transversing genders, spanning the space between male and female. It is a broad term and doesn’t specifically define one gender expression.
Hi, I was chatting with some of my members online the other  night and we got to talking about our first time. I donât think any of us really knew what we were doing at that time. I was about 5 when I first tried on a pair of black panties. My cousin had been over, and theyâd been left.
I think my mother must have washed them and put them in my draw by mistake.  Either way I found them, and realised they werenât mine.  I tried them on all the same, and I can remember thinking it was naughty. I can also remember getting an erection â which was definitely a little strange.
For some of us, it was our sister that played âdress upâ with us. For others itâs some other situation completely.Â
We all have a different path into this – and for each unusual start there’s an unusual outcome. Â I know so many men who crossdress, and hide it from their wives, only to find later (when their guilty secret is discovered) that their spouse really likes the fact that they like to dress up. And of course there are the ones that go the other way.
Of course we all have a different path into this – and for each unusual start there’s an unusual outcome. Â I know so many men who crossdress, and hide it from their wives, only to fnd later (when their guilty secret is discovered) that their spouse really likes the fact that they like to dress up. And of course there are the ones that go the other way.
In the end, we all know we just have to be the person we’re meant to be – and find ways to accomodate that. There’s good ways and bad ways to do that.
I’ve just added a new page to my site that will help people understand a little about this. On my site you can tell your own story in the comments section of the following page – https://fionadobson.com/my-first-time/. Â You might find your own story is not so unusual. It’s a good thing to share. Â Don’t forget to register on the site. That way you’re sure to get a lot more out of it.
In the days that followed I found myself falling into a routine to break the boredom of this captivity. In other circumstances my situation could have been almost described as idyllic. Sun, beach, sea.
Many of us look to the medical profession for guidance. Sometimes we should think twice about that. Our own communities are stronger and more educated than theirs. Until they get their heads around non-binary gender issues we should tread with caution.
When Jeff returns to his old apartment he finds more than he bargained for. This ghost story was written for http://Fionadobson.com – the transgender blog you’ll love even if you’ve never tried on your sisters panties.
Fiona
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What a busy week itâs been. Poor Sylvester has barely even got his chopper out. Heâs looking most frustrated.
Iâve told him, there are times when circumstances just donât allow a good ride, and itâs times like that we have to do the preventative maintenance. He usually looks despondent when I say such things, and then goes off to grease his nipples, or something. I have no idea what that is, by the way. Anyway, perhaps the weather will improve and heâll be able to get out on his bike.
We are living at a strange and dystopian time. The US is not what it once was – we might as well accept the fact. Al l that said, this is not a time to give up. It is the time to be the hope that seems so absent for most people. We can do that by being kind, considerate and by being ourselves. Our existence is resistance.
So, what can we do? Right away you can familiarise yourself with this – https://fionadobson.com/the-three-things-you-can-do-right-now-to-advance-transgender-rights/ – which is a good starting point. If you live in an area which has no pathway to support for a candidate that could get themselves elected, then I would strongly suggest backing a candidate in a location they may be able to get elected, even if this is far from you. Elections, contrary to popular belief, do not take place on one day. They take years. Supporting political movers and shakers who align themselves with out values does not have to happen just during an election year. The pressure needs to be constant, and our support of our people should be, too. If you live in the middle of a right wing enclave, you can donate to Zooey Zephyr, in Montana and lend her your support. Those of us outside the USA canât donate to support US candidates, there are rules against that, but we can look to people who are advancing trans rights in our own country and lend them whatever support we can. Sometimes this is monetary, sometimes by volunteering, and sometimes simply by expressing support for their message.
We are definitely living at a strange time in history. However, weâve always been here, and we will always be here. Supporting our sisters in any way we can is more important than ever. This week I was travelling in the foothills of the rocky mountains, and in a small town hardly big enough to swing a cat in I stopped to buy a coffee on a very long drive. To my surprise a trans girl came in as I was ordering my coffee. I would guess she was 20 years old. She looked lovely and I turned to her, complimented her on her lovely hair, and then told her how those of us who are older are so very proud of our young sisters. I said to her, âyou carry a flag that we were unable to, and we admire you for that. When we are gone, you will carry that flag onward.â
She was so grateful. Many of us face a very solitary journey. When we are able to express our support for one another it really helps.
With this in mind I am offering the first five people who email me at fdobson@zoho.com with the email subject line âI support my sistersâ free membership of my Whatsapp Group. This is usually $10 a month, so itâs a substantial saving. Remember to check out the guidelines for the group chat. Itâs been running very well for years and is a supportive place for many members unable to find community elsewhere. If youâd like another opportunity to chat with others, you can do so by choosing one of the options on my Patreon and using the community chat there. Just remember to keep it respectful and clean. Itâs about supporting one another.
You can get into my Patreon for as little as a dollar a month, and I could really use some new members there. Jump in and use ‘my back door’ if you want to be supportive.
It’s always a pleasure talking online with my web visitors. I try to man the chat system at least three hours a day, and I’m always around on email.
Our Whatsapp Group for Elite Members is also a chat mechanism. Anyway, this evening I had a lovely first time visitor feeling a little ashamed as he’d never thought of himself having a feminine name. And yet they clearly wanted to allow this wonderful side of their personality to emerge. I am here for exactly this type of support.
One thing that got mentioned was, “Am I less of a man, wanting to do this?”
The answer, as so clearly demonstrated by Julius Braddock in An English Country Garden, is a resounding ‘No!’. If you read the remarkable story, you’ll see so very clearly that Braddock is no shrinking violet. As with so many of my members, Braddock is a person who has a developing personality, and a wonderful perspective on life. Be sure to have a read if you want an alternative view on issues of masculinity – and the development of the more complex person.
Sylvester was already at my breakfast table as I hurried by to the laundry room. Heâs doing some work caulking the tiles in my kitchen. I let him let himself in when he drops by early, as long as he puts the coffee on.
âMorning,â I said as I rushed by, late for a morning meeting at the office. In the laundry I grabbed a polka dot bra, and a pair of panties, then hurried back upstairs to dress properly. This happens to be one of my favorite bras. The HRT has helped my breast development nicely, and I like to feel comfortable.
When I came down to breakfast a few minutes later wearing a nice blouse and skirt, I noticed Sylvester looking at me disapprovingly.
âWell,â I asked. âWhatâs the matter with you?â
âI couldnât help noticing,â he said, âthat your bra and panties donât match.â
As I poured some milk onto my muesli I gave Sylvester a disapproving look.
âIf I want you to look at my underwear Iâll tell you so!â I said. I think you can see the kind of thing I have to put up with.
âI couldnât help but notice,â he replied. At least he had the decency to look a little awkward.
âAnyway, so what if they donât match?â I asked.
âItâs just that I always think of you being better organised than that. Besides I happen to know you spend a small fortune on lingerie,â he carried on. âAnd, I mean â itâs nice if it all goes together.â
âSylvester,â I said patiently as I sipped my coffee, âthereâs something you need to understand. And I say this as one who knows, if your girlfriends, misguided as they may be, are wearing matching bra and panties, then theyâve already decided youâre having sex that night.â
Sylvester looked blankly at me as the realisation that he wasnât the one making the decisions slowly dawned on him.Â
âYou mean, they decide before we even go out?â he asked.
âYes.â I replied.
âBut if thatâs true, why do I have to do all the hard work, buying dinner and trying to get them in the mood?â he mumbled.
âBecause we like that sort of thing. We like you to work for it,â I said and put my empty cup in the sink.
âYouâre saying, I donât get to make the decision? Sheâs already decided what weâre going to do?â
âBingo!â I said.
As I hurried to the door and picked up my back-pack, Sylvester smirked and said, âSo I guess youâre not getting anything tonight.â
You know, Sylvester really can be quite coarse.
As I hurried out the door I said, âSo, now you know what I carry in my back-pack!â
But thatâs not the main reason Iâm writing tonight. I thought I would just remind my friends and members, with all the troubling developments we see around us today, we cannot change the things people expose us to, the terrible news, the erosion of rights, however we can change the way we respond to them.
As hard as it sometimes is, choosing not let ourselves feel despair or anger can help us. Choosing to calmly observe, keep our powder dry, and pick fights we can win is a wise path. Of course, the news organisations want you to respond to news stories. It’s their job to present news in a way that gets a reaction. Take a breath, step back and try not to respond. Yes, that does mean dumping some social media. It also means being very selective with your news sources. I always use Associated Press and BBC, their coverage of most news being relatively balanced. Don’t forget, our existence is resistance.
This is a celebration put on by The Dogwood Monarchist Society, established in 1972 as a registered non-profit society to run the Imperial Court of Vancouver to support the LGBTQIA+ community. The DMS was recognized as the Mother Court of Canada in 1976, and is now part of over 70 courts across Canada, the United States and Mexico. Since its inceptions, the DMS has raised over $2M for deserving LGBTQ charities, and continues to thrive as an organization and as leaders within the Vancouver community. This is not only a wonderful event, Lenni (our very own) and her wife, Crem, are major drivers of the event and the organisation.