What a lovely conversation with Ella today, one of my website visitors I had the good fortune to chat with. Ella wanted some suggestions for a sports bra she could wear under her clothes at work. Sometimes wearing something special beneath our other clothes is a nice way to quietly indulge ourselves without others knowing.
I suggested something I had done myself – simply choosing a nice sports bra to wear discretely. Depending what you wear over it you can choose any of hundreds of styles. Here’s a couple of my personal favorites.
This tank top with built in bra features a sexy sweetheart neckline. The widen band on the bottom makes it more snug fit, lifts the girls nicely, which makes sure this sports yoga bra don’t easily slide or roll up, and helpfully keeps your boobs in the place when you’re doing low-medium impact exercises.
Sports bras used to be very basic, little more than a tight elasticated band built to compress and hold firm. Nowadays there are many more designs and flamboyant options. Depending what you wear over them, you can enjoy the sensation of a firm hold, while still enjoying a flair for fun.
Everyone struggles with this in the early stages of their journey. Those guilty moments of looking at a collection of clothes and saying to yourself ‘what am I doing?’, followed by throwing out sometimes expensive clothes.
You don’t have to do it this way. There’s a few things that will help, and all you need to do is step through this simple process to remove the purging and save yourself some money. So, if you want to end that wasteful process, read this, and act on it.
Step One. Understand this is all about shame. You swing like a pendulum moving from excitement dressing, to shame and regret that you’re doing this in secret. You can start the process of getting past this by understand that there’s nothing shameless about this. It’s simply a part of you longing for fulfillment. The simplest way to start getting over this is to using my hypnosis content. Try this for a start.
Step Two. You are going to need to start understanding what this is about. If it’s more than a passing fetish (and it is if you’re really feeling shame), then you ae going to want to understand more about trans issues, and how it’s perfectly understandable and normal for many of us. You may not be a ‘woman’ but you may feel like one. That’s neither an illness, nor a sin. It may be a signal that there’s something going on you’re going to have to organise in your head. If you listen to some of the videos in my Featured Friends sections you will find that most of us are perfectly normal and reasonable people. We’re not freaks. We’re probably just like you. Below is a video by Contrapoints that’s a fun place to start but gives you some serious things to think about. Listen to it, and then come back to it again a day later and listen to it again. Understand it. This stuff takes time and is a lot to assimilate, but if you’re going to understand this stuff you need to do it.
Step Three. When you purge you’re probably tossing out hyper femme clothes you feel, in a moment of shame, are not ‘you’. You’re going to change how you dress. Instead of buying some excessively feminine clothes, you can by more practical androgynous clothes that move you into a semi femme aesthetic. There will be time to buy the more femme clothes later. That’s not to say you won’t have any super femme clothes, but you will also have some nice simple androgynous clothing. Getting the pastel lambs wool sweater and the more feminine cut jeans will not arouse others concerns, but will allow you to dress in a more androgynous way any time you like. Putting on a little eye makeup is all you need to present much more femme whenever you wish to. You’re not going to toss clothes like that and you won’t feel shame associated with them.
Step Four. This is not meant to be a hard sell. I don’t need to do that, and people in my programs know it’s not my way. However, to send your expensive habit of purging clothes you will help yourself enormously if you join my Premium Program, because it will help you learn more and accept more about yourself. This is all about understanding your gender, and accepting yourself. There’s nothing to be ashamed of about being who you are. So subscribe to the damned program and stop wasting money!
These steps will help, if you do them. If you don’t, well I’ll see you back here when you do it all over again, because this thing doesn’t just stop. It’s part of you.
