Your health is important to me.

Sitting at my kitchen table Sylvester stared at the container of powder supplement before him.

“It says here, it’s ‘Protein Supplement For Men’.”

“Well, keep it away from me,” I replied. “There’s so much estrogen coursing through my body at this point I don’t think it’s going to do me much good.”

“I’m supposed to mix it with milk and add a banana for a nourishing drink.  That’s what the packaging says,” continued Sylvester.

It’s so refreshing to see him taking his health seriously. I sincerely believe we should invest in ourselves with a healthy diet, as you likely know.

“Just put it in the blender with some milk, then,” I said handing him a banana from the fruit bowl.

I got up and left the kitchen to slip into my yoga clothes as I knew Sebastian would be arriving shortly to help me with my yoga practice.  I do so like to start the day with a stretch. I laid a mat down in the living room and put on a little calming music, lit a couple of candles and some incense before going up to change.

When I returned to the kitchen there was Sylvester drinking a large glass of his fresh smoothy. I glanced at the table, and noticed he had used 10% creamer milk, rather than the 2% milk I generally drink.

“How’s that taste, Sylvester,” I asked.

“Oh, it’s good,” he replied.

“You might want to use the 2% milk next time,” I suggested. “That’s practically straight cholesterol you’re drinking.”

Sylvester looked at the milk carton and frowned.

“Tastes good, though,” he said.

At that point the doorbell rang, and Sebastian arrived.

“Is Sylvester joining us for yoga this morning,” asked Sebastian as he put his gym bag down.

“Oh, I don’t think so. He’s too busy drinking his creamy man protein,” I said.

Sebastian glanced dubiously at Sylvester.

“Really,” he said. “I didn’t know he was into that sort of thing.”

However, that’s not the main reason I’m writing to you today.  Jules has just put out a very good piece on Youtube which you might enjoy. There’s some excellent Youtubers on the slate this week. I’d like to draw attention to pieces by Andy in Warsaw, Leah Passaniti and Lily Alexandre. Use these hotlinks to listen to some great content.

These can keep you informed and supported. There’s some really great stuff there. I enjoy listening to these pieces and find I can stay reasonably well informed if I do.  Have a listen and see what you think. In these times of such upheaval it’s quite important to stay informed and connected to sources of good information. Just in case you’re not aware of it, the hotlinks in my posts usually take you somewhere pretty interesting. 🙂

Have a lovely week.

Fiona

The serious side of Man Or Bear.

The recent viral internet discussion about ‘Would you rather meet a bear in a forest or a man?’ has sparked a lot of comment. I don’t really follow these things very closely, but I did notice one discussion where the influencers concerned twisted it a little by adding ‘would you rather be stuck in the woods with a transwoman or a bear’.

I am not so silly as to think this is a serious discussion, and the channel involved is a very low volume one. However, the comments were both transphobic and made light of a rather more serious question.

The temptation is to think which is more dangerous, man or bear. However the real question one should ask is, ‘are we doing enough to make women feel safe around men?’

Continue reading “The serious side of Man Or Bear.”

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If you’re early in your gender transition, maybe even just questioning your gender for the first time, where should you go from here?

Well, of course, there is no one “correct” path, but taking some time to reflect on and explore your gender identity can be a great starting point. You might be saying, this sounds great and all but what does that actually look like?

I put together a series of questions that help kickstart the gender reflection process, in the hopes of helping you deepen your understanding of your gender and hopefully gain additional clarity in trying to answer questions like “Am I trans, and if so, how do I know?”

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One of the members of our Whatsapp Group just posted this…

Lenni, a cis female member of our Whatsapp Group posted this to the group and it came to my attention. It’s a beautiful short movie, poignant especially at this time. Please watch and share.

At a time when youth need all the support they can find, this hits the target beautifully. Our Whatsapp group is here to support all comers. Lenni and her wife have been LGBTQ activist for the last 25 years. It’s hardly suprising that such a supportive message should emanate from her.

FD

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The British healthcare system and it’s strategic inefficiency for trans people. You can support Philosophy Tube here – https://www.patreon.com/PhilosophyTube

When the system in your country simply doesn’t work, sometimes we have to look outside of our own system for solutions. Please be aware that you do need to do your own due diligence in checking these thing out – and I categorically do not make any recommendations on the surgeons listed below. They are simply a starting point for people who are interested in stepping outside their own healthcare system for answers.

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Time for a Halloween touch up!

As Halloween approaches and the souls of the dead prepare to walk the earth, any number of my friends are preparing to dress up and wander the streets in the dark. Actually, now that I think about it, most weekends many of my friends spend their evenings doing precisely that regardless of the time of year.

I was conferring with Sylvester in my kitchen, examining a few articles of lingerie, trying to decide what best to wear for my Halloween night party. I finally decided on fishnet, stiletto heels and a bodice, with a steampunk look. Perfect.

I asked Sylvester what he planned to come as.

“I think Donald Trump, if I can find the right costume.”

“At this late stage, I’m not sure you’re going to be able to find a giant dick costume!” I said sympathetically.

At that very moment Amanda, my wife’s unbearable friend, arrived at the door and knocked so hard I felt sure the roof would cave in. She has all the grace and delicacy of a garbage truck.

She barrelled in, coughing and spluttering like a diesel engine that hadn’t been run in a while. Amanda then went on to tell us of the latest disaster to befall her. Amanda was coming by, fresh from her gynecologist. Now, if there was ever a job that requires a strong stomach, being Amanda’s gyny would be the top of that list. Apparently Amanda was in the midst of an exam, had a coughing fit and one way or another the poor man was taken off to hospital with a broken wrist!

I will spare you the details, but it was all rather distasteful. Then, just to make matters worse, Sylvester let slip that he was coming to my party, which so far we’d successfully kept secret from Amanda. She then promptly invited herself to the event!

Reluctantly I asked what she would be coming as.

“Well,” she said, expansively. “I think I’ll come as that CNN broadcaster that looks like me.”

Sylvester and I looked at one another, puzzled. I was thinking, maybe Lou Dobbs, but he’s with Fox now. Maybe Wolf Blitzer?

“You know,” she persisted. “The blonde. Megan whats-her-name…”

“Megan Kelly?”  I asked.

“That’s her,” said Amanda.

“Oh,” I said. “The likeness is uncanny.” Megan Kelly looks about as much like Amanda as a carrot resembles plague.

“Well,” I said. “If you stand next to Sylvester as Donald Trump, all you need do to look like Megan Kelly is wear any form of period costume.”

But, that’s not the main reason I am writing to you. I recently had a delightful email from Brandi, in Yakima, WA in which she enclosed a great face pic which she had touched up using an app called YouCam Makeup- Makeover Studio. I’m sure we all appreciate a good touch up, don’t we? So this week I am offering a free membership of my Little Black Book to the best retouched Halloween pic which uses YouCam or another similar makeup type filter. Keep in mind that any pics you send in may end up on the website – so don’t be surprised if I place them there!

Have a wonderful Halloween, and at this time of year – when so many of us are having so much fun – spare a thought for Amanda’s gynecologist!

🙂

Fiona