The Crisis In the British Healthcare System – Philosophy Tube.

The British healthcare system and it’s strategic inefficiency for trans people. You can support Philosophy Tube here – https://www.patreon.com/PhilosophyTube

When the system in your country simply doesn’t work, sometimes we have to look outside of our own system for solutions. Please be aware that you do need to do your own due diligence in checking these thing out – and I categorically do not make any recommendations on the surgeons listed below. They are simply a starting point for people who are interested in stepping outside their own healthcare system for answers.

CountryWeb Address:
Transgender surgeons – Brazilhttps://www.transhealthcare.org/brazil/
Transgender Centre – Mexicohttps://mexicotransgendercenter.us/
Transgender surgeons – Italyhttps://www.transhealthcare.org/italy/
Transgender Surgeon – Hollandhttps://gendersurgeryamsterdam.com/
Transgender Surgeon – Indiahttps://www.transgendersurgeryworld.com/
Transgender Surgeon – Thailandhttps://www.mtfsurgery.net/gender-reassignment-surgery-thailand.htm
Transgender Surgeon – Thailand – 2https://www.kamolhospital.com/en/service/MTF-sex-reassignment/
Transgender Surgeon – Thailand – 3https://www.thaimedicalvacation.com/gender-reassignment-surgery/
Transgender Surgeon – Thaland – 4https://www.transhealthcare.org/pichet-rodchareon/

Trans – Is it a choice?

There’s a rainbow of colors out there when it comes to crossdressing, and gender queer ideas. However, one question that is often asked is, ‘Is this a choice?’ It’s a pretty reasonable question.

I chat a lot online and talk to many of my members. Among those who are just exploring this side of themselves for the first time, this is a huge question. On the one hand they do want to dress, and allow themselves to be more feminine. However, they also feel a sense of guilt and shame. So, can’t they simply choose not to do this?

I’ve thought about that one long and hard. I sincerely believe that if we live our authentic life we have no need to feel any sense of shame. I temper that with the idea that we try to take into account the sensitivities of others around us. That’s just being a decent human being. We don’t need to force our personalities on others. We’ve got nothing to prove.

While it’s not the same for all of us, I think it fair to say that when we suppress the feminine side of our nature we stifle ourselves. We deny ourselves a large part of who we are. The reason so many trans people develop depression and anxiety is, I sincerely believe, linked to the fact that pretending to be someone other than the person we are is quite literally exhausting. And most of us do this the majority of the time. It’s only when we choose not to pretend that we start to accept ourselves and flourish.

So, it’s only a choice in the sense that we choose to stop pretending. We start to accept ourselves. And then we start to live as we truly are.

Let me know how you’re doing.

Fiona

http://FionaDobson.com

Time for a Halloween touch up!

As Halloween approaches and the souls of the dead prepare to walk the earth, any number of my friends are preparing to dress up and wander the streets in the dark. Actually, now that I think about it, most weekends many of my friends spend their evenings doing precisely that regardless of the time of year.

I was conferring with Sylvester in my kitchen, examining a few articles of lingerie, trying to decide what best to wear for my Halloween night party. I finally decided on fishnet, stiletto heels and a bodice, with a steampunk look. Perfect.

I asked Sylvester what he planned to come as.

“I think Donald Trump, if I can find the right costume.”

“At this late stage, I’m not sure you’re going to be able to find a giant dick costume!” I said sympathetically.

At that very moment Amanda, my wife’s unbearable friend, arrived at the door and knocked so hard I felt sure the roof would cave in. She has all the grace and delicacy of a garbage truck.

She barrelled in, coughing and spluttering like a diesel engine that hadn’t been run in a while. Amanda then went on to tell us of the latest disaster to befall her. Amanda was coming by, fresh from her gynecologist. Now, if there was ever a job that requires a strong stomach, being Amanda’s gyny would be the top of that list. Apparently Amanda was in the midst of an exam, had a coughing fit and one way or another the poor man was taken off to hospital with a broken wrist!

I will spare you the details, but it was all rather distasteful. Then, just to make matters worse, Sylvester let slip that he was coming to my party, which so far we’d successfully kept secret from Amanda. She then promptly invited herself to the event!

Reluctantly I asked what she would be coming as.

“Well,” she said, expansively. “I think I’ll come as that CNN broadcaster that looks like me.”

Sylvester and I looked at one another, puzzled. I was thinking, maybe Lou Dobbs, but he’s with Fox now. Maybe Wolf Blitzer?

“You know,” she persisted. “The blonde. Megan whats-her-name…”

“Megan Kelly?”  I asked.

“That’s her,” said Amanda.

“Oh,” I said. “The likeness is uncanny.” Megan Kelly looks about as much like Amanda as a carrot resembles plague.

“Well,” I said. “If you stand next to Sylvester as Donald Trump, all you need do to look like Megan Kelly is wear any form of period costume.”

But, that’s not the main reason I am writing to you. I recently had a delightful email from Brandi, in Yakima, WA in which she enclosed a great face pic which she had touched up using an app called YouCam Makeup- Makeover Studio. I’m sure we all appreciate a good touch up, don’t we? So this week I am offering a free membership of my Little Black Book to the best retouched Halloween pic which uses YouCam or another similar makeup type filter. Keep in mind that any pics you send in may end up on the website – so don’t be surprised if I place them there!

Have a wonderful Halloween, and at this time of year – when so many of us are having so much fun – spare a thought for Amanda’s gynecologist!

🙂

Fiona