Many times I hear from members wishing to dress in a very feminine way, but they find that they simply can’t due to family or others that would never find their emergence as a CD or gender fluid person acceptable.
For many of us the answer is to move more gently into the centre of the gender spectrum.
Below are a few ideas of how you can do this. Be sure to follow me on Pinterest to get more ideas. If you do venture into this space the addition of a little makeup and some heels and you’re firmly in the Crossdressing arena, however in many cases without make up you’ll simply appear to be dressing in a more gentle manner.
Many of my members love to wear corsets. Let’s face it, anything that helps us look 15 lbs lighter is probably a good thing. Usually the only thing that can do that is either a very unusual mirror or a large amount of alcohol.
Neither of the above options help when it comes to having a balanced view of the world. So, in the interests of good health and clarity, I am the first to encourage my members to reach for a nice corset and slip into it.Continue reading “Seasoning your corset.”
Our Whatsapp Group has spoken! If it’s just one of those days, get into some panties, a nice robe and sit and drink a nice cup of tea.
You can break out of a poor mood by giving yourself a nice break in the middle of the day and slipping into something femme. These robes are perfect.
Now settle down with a nice cup of licorice tea and relax. You’re already feeling better.
When Max, my next door neighbor’s son, dropped by unexpectedly this afternoon, and found me doing a yoga workout, he asked me where I’d been all morning. As he watched me stretch in my leotard, he seemed really quite engrossed. I mentioned that I’d been busy having a Brazilian, and he said something about shaving. I have no idea why.
It did however, remind me that so many of my members worry about body hair. And it’s true, it can be tricky, especially if one is essentially closeted in their dressing. However, I am a strong believer that one of the most enjoyable ways of concealing body hair is to wear a body stocking. It’s aesthetically beautiful, and really does conceal most of the issue.Continue reading “Body hair 101 for crossdressers.”
I will admit that going out to dinner with Sylvester in a formal setting is somewhat like taking out a baboon in a tuxedo, however I do enjoy dressing for dinner and using any excuse to wear an evening gown.
Of course, my work at the advertising agency does require me to attend several formal dinners every month. So, with this in mind I thought I’d give a little attention to the idea of more formal wear.
So many times I’ve seen my lovely members spend their time and energy on lingerie without giving proper attention to the other dressing opportunities that present themselves. Having a few friends over for a formal dinner is a lovely way to celebrate at home, and presents a great opportunity to enjoy some delightful clothes in a comfortable setting.
A lovely aspect of so many of these dresses is that they do show of the shape of the body so well. So if you are inclined to either use body shapers or really work on your physical shape, they are a great addition to any crossdressing wardrobe. And what better excuse do you need to wear a corset?
Ordering online is increasingly easy and of course the selection is very broad. Be sure you check measurements, as there’s no joy in finding you’re squeezing into something that’s really too small.
There can be little doubt that the single piece of crossdressing equipment that makes the greatest impact on how you look is the corset. Suddenly you have a waist, and look very different!
That dress now hangs a little more naturally. You have curves that make you excited and others wild with desire. Everything is different.
You’re going to love the selection below. Take a good look and then experiment. Keep in mind that buying a little larger than you think you need may be a good idea. You can easily be cinched down a size or two.
Remember, it’s great to experiment with a few ideas. If you can find a girlfriend to help you, you’re going to enjoy this even more.
Don’t be afraid to experiment with corsets. They are fun and give you an instant waistline. Some have a longer body style than others. They can be worn over or under a blouse, and there’s the tricky question of whether on not you want an underbust line, or one that cradles breast forms, or your natural breast mass.
Eventually you’ll want to spend a substantial amount on a corset. At that point a professional fitting is a great idea. When you’re spending upwards of $300 on a corset, you don’t want to make mistakes. However, you’ll likely find it’s worth every cents. Until then try any of the ones you see on this page and have some fun with them.
One of the most fun aspects of corsetry is the idea of going steampunk. I love to waer steampunk clothes and the corset is a staple of the style. Below are a few great corsets that can combine with jeans, or a long skirt, and boots, perfect for a steampunk adventure. I can hardly wait to get out there once more.
— Fiona Dobson (@FionaDobson_CD) August 30, 2018
Today I’m featuring this lovely hand made dress. You can learn more about Christina here: https://twitter.com/Interrobang_Art
You can also find her beautiful Etsy shop HERE.
We want to support Christina for a few reasons. First of all, she’s a wonderful and creative person. Second, her mum’s not been well and is recovering from surgery. And third she eats cheesecake for breakfast.
If you like her work drop her a line and support her wonderful designs. If you let her know you’re a crossdresser she’s going to look after you.
I think it fair to say that most crossdressers enjoy wearing clothes with style and panache. One great example of someone who does not know how to do this came to the fore recently.
I’ve sent staff home from the office before for ‘looking like you are wearing a garbage bag to work’. When Melania Trump recently showed up with a heartless message on her jacket she proved once more that it really doesn’t matter how much money you have, you can’t buy class. I need hardly add that the children abused by this heartless policy have no voice to counter this ignorance with.
Thanks for reminding us all exactly who you and your family are. As if we needed reminding!
You can add your voice to those who really do care by wearing the tee shirt below.
It’s a wonderful time to color up your wardrobe with some pink sneakers. Here’s a few cool options. These are great for on the beach, or at the fitness studio.
Sebastian, my personal trainer, had always liked me to wear my pink trainers when working out. He tells me that when they are just behind my ears the color offsets the glow of my cheek. He’s a very naughty trainer.
Pink was not always a feminine color, there being several military uniforms of the Napolionic era that included pink trim. Only at the end of the 1800’s did the color begin to take on a feminine undertone. You can learn a little more about the cultural history of ‘pink’ here.
For a crossdresser pink offers the opportunity to introduce an overtly feminine accessory that softens the most manly of presentations. Remember, when buying femme shoe sizes add at least two sizes to convert to a male size. If you have broad feet this may not be enough.
I was so pleased to see a delivery arrive this morning with some new and colorful socks. As I’m wearing shorter skirts now, I am loving the fact that I can mix and match with some exciting new colors and textures covering my legs.
Here are a few ideas that have got me excited recently. I’m sure that slipping these on when you dress, or even under your usual clothes is sure to add a spring to your step.
|Stockings and Socks||Tell me about them!|
|Picking a beautiful pair of suspender pantyhose is a great choice for instant sex appeal, but also a low maintainance approach to swift dressing. These stockings will make your legs look spectacular and help you feel sexy and attractive in seconds, even if they’ve not been shaved in a while.|
|Get colorful with these packs that offer variety and style. These are perfect to add a special sparkle to a new outfit, or revitalise an older one. Dare to be colorful and you’ll find you can reignite your look with ease.|
|Don’t be afraid to explore the outer limits of good taste! Yes, sometimes it pays to get a little whacky. If you’re the sort of person who knows that if they’re not the wierdest person in the room, then you’re obviously in the wrong room, then you will have to have these great socks. Whether you wear them under your suit in the Funeral home where you work, or you just can’t resist them with a short skirt, then you know you’re on the right track as you pull these beauties on!|
It’s time to put together something exciting for summer. Here’s a great place to start.
|Check it out on Amazon.||Find that perfect outfit.|
|Lightweight, cheap and fun. Crocs make some funky wedges. Remember to add 2 sizes to get a women’s shoe to fit a male foot!|
|Mesh panties are fun and comfortable to exercise in. Just don’t wear them to the pool and go into the male changing rooms.|
|Find the perfect summer dress here.|
|You just can’t beat corset tops for a fresh summer look.|
Most crossdressers enjoy their activities in a somewhat private way. Unlike ‘drag queens’ they feel a sense of privacy adds to their enjoyment, and definitely don’t wish to step outside of their comfort zone unless there is a well established confidence already built.
While this isn’t the case for everyone, it’s certainly the case for many of my members. I was saying to Sebastian just this Wednesday, as he was helping me adjust my yoga position, I feel an intimate connection with every one of my members. I feel that I understand their struggle and their joy. And it’s a path that’s sadly not understood by many. Even as Sebastian helped me into an inversion, I said that the connection is one that is deep and very personal.
With that in mind, I thought I’d talk this week about wearing some clothes somewhat less associated with crossdressing. I think we all agree that lovely soft evening gowns are very beautiful. For the average woman, there’s a desire to wear them out and be seen. Ironically, because crossdressers tend not to want to go outside in such a public exposure (at least in the early part of their journey), this is an activity that is denied us by society.
|That however does not mean that you can’t enjoy these wonderful garments. Especially these days, the cost is not prohibitive. There’s nothing in the world wrong with being ‘overdressed’ in the privacy of your own home. Remember, it’s not so long ago that many people ‘dressed for dinner’.
With this in mind, this week I’m featuring these lovely gowns. You can buy these and wear them in the privacy of your own home, enjoy their delightful flow and movement, and perhaps wear them in public – when you are ready.
Enjoy them, and remember you can buy them at very reasonable rates online.
In the meantime, sometimes you have to learn to be invisible.
Many of my members buy their clothing online and love to use Amazon. I’ve got a few selections below based on what my members have been buying this week. Feel free to review any of the products you buy here. I always love to hear from my members. FD
|Some of my favorite sleepwear items are the simplest. Here’s a small selection of items my members have been buying recently, and enjoying.|
|You can’t beat the feel of silky material against the skin. What better way to ensure a wonderful night’s sleep!|
|Try some of these lovely silky pyjamas and see how wonderful you feel in the morning! All fresh and ready to go out and pretend to be almost normal, like all the people who’d love to be enjoying themselves as much as you and I.